What went wrong for your wedding?

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Omgoodness. The zoom thing would have pissed me off.

UGH
Where. To. Start. ?? 🤣😭
SO many things: leading up to, the day of, and even after the day. (Marked most main points with • symbol) Something of the days before:•MOH was late and had nothing ready at all for my bridal shower. (It was a hectic/immensely stressful mess//somehow better/less stressful than my wedding day. Which is sad & still breaks my heart) 😞•MOH also made me late for the day of because she was Lolly gaggin through our house (looking at mine and my husbands baby pictures etc) instead of getting ready when she was supposed to and when all of us were finally ready (when we think she is as well) we’re heading to walk out the door and she’s like “oh where’s my bag!?!” “Oh where’s my dress!?” “Where’s my shoes?” “WHERES MY CHARGER??” I’m like 🤦🏻‍♀️ ok well I’m leaving and don’t have time for any of this. Especially not now/not anymore. We had already waited for her for quite sometime and (to go back into the morning a bit while she was doing her lolly gaggin escapade) when I was about to hop in the shower she hopped in before I could get to the bathroom! So I had to wait for her regardless at least until the shower was ready. (I wasn’t able to get in the shower earlier not just because I was being nice and letting her know several times to get in the shower first because she’s the guest etc etc but also I told her that I was taking care of a few last minute touches (earrings etc) as well as some things that came up last minute with our cake/flowers)) note to self/others: hire a day of coordinator.)She still made me about 30 minutes late at least for hair and makeup therefore everything else was off schedule. On top of this one of the girls at the salon I’d pay to do my bridesmaids hair said “ she was done and didn’t want to do hair anymore” even though she did one girls head. It also wasn’t done well at ALL and she had to put it up and take it down several times sayin she had a difficult time with her hair because the bridesmaid had “layers” 🤔So we had to wait for one of the other girls to finish who she was working on to fix and really just do all over this bridesmaids updo.
Then I was rushing around everywhere right before my wedding at the church to babysit my photographer to make sure she got pictures from my shots list because again. She never looked at it. Ever. (When I’d asked her about it before/after the ceremony (I’m pretty sure at least once or twice) she didn’t really ever answer my question/s and said something about how “well I can’t look at my phone right now” even though I’d asked her “is your phone on you and charged?” Etc and she said “yes” and again after at least a year of her agreeing and saying that having it be on her phone is actually BETTER than a paper sheet because then she’ll have everything all together/less likely she’ll lose it/damage it etc. and after times after as well I made sure and asked her if she’d rather have it printed I could do that. She said no. It’s fine that it’s on my phone. Apparently it wasn’t. About 20 minutes before my ceremony. (If that honestly) I just threw on my dress last minute and didn’t have really any soak up time/relaxing time/or really much happy time I’d wanted to have on my day. Because I was so stressed out. For pretty much the entire time.

There was I’d say the biggest issues of: •mainly negativity from grooms side aimed at me (which I’m STILL dealing with to this day 💔) as well as one of my main heartaches of: •ceremony backdrop issue (that is in all of our pictures and video footage 😫 —****anyone else had ceremony backdrop issues as well and ways to cope with this***? Or words of wisdom to help?) and speaking of pictures and their issues; •our photographer was TERRIBLE. Which I still can’t fathom. (Since she did SO immensely well for my bridal shower. I’m still perplexed about that fact)There were just so many countless shots she didn’t capture on the day of, I had been communicating with her for over a year and gave her the shots lists several months before the wedding and went over it with her during our meetings leading up to the wedding so I feel she had a plethora of time/plenty of opportunity to at least do even at least a little better than how she actually performed. Also only a small amount of pictures she took were actually in a few of my words wedding day worthy and especially able to be on display in our home due to them being so blurry/out of focus. (She also made a lot of them black and white to try and hide this fact then proceeded to me all this so it’s not just something I’m assuming happened) there’s also pictures of family and some of my husband and I that she STILL has yet to send to us. 😫We have an online gallery but we’re also promised a flash drive almost a year ago and we’re going on almost two years since our wedding. 🤦🏻‍♀️ So much crap to deal with 😫I know I married I married my soulmate, my ride or die, my best friend. My everything. For that I’m so happy, thankful, & forever blessed. In saying that however I didn’t not ever want to look back on my wedding day as I do Just with stress and regrets. I had wanted to elope/have an intimate ceremony for our wedding. (Among other ways as well to save us hundreds to thousands of dollars-like me printing off our own invitations)Husband didn’t want to. Or if he didnt mind the eloping etc he wanted at least his parents there and he knew one of them wouldn’t be able to attend. I get that at the same time. But we still could’ve at least done something smaller or even just a little bit different so perhaps maybe some of these things wouldn’t have happened/wouldn’t have been so stressful. I don’t know. Hind sight is 2020 and I can’t go back and change anything regardless. I just wish I didn’t have all that happen on our day. Countless other things happened as well. And I honestly don’t feel to this day that I really had a wedding and if there was a wedding I wasn’t the bride. It just feels like everyone else’s day. Especially since so many people mainly (again like stated previously) family since they didn’t want us married in the first place. And I feel like some of them still don’t to this day. (Another story. Even longer one) Sending love hugs and prayers to y’all. I know no wedding is ever nor will ever be perfect. And I wouldn’t have minded certain things but when big things happen (at least to me like especially with the pictures and ceremony backdrop) along with negativity I felt immensely on the day of along with so much stress; it just isn’t okay. And I feel so cheated out of a day I deserved to have and also should be able to look back on with happiness for the entire day and night. But I don’t. The only times I do our when it’s just when my husband and I were together/alone together. Like our first dance. Cake cutting etc. the rest is so layered with stress and mainly clouded over with that because that’s all I mainly felt on the day of. And an out of body experience because with everything piled up I feel like I may have had panic attacks from all of it. Definitely was immensely overwhelmed and not in a good way for most of it. It just sucks and is heartbreaking. Hopefully we can have some consolation/peace/healing with getting pictures/an anniversary celebration coming up in the next few years...It’s just so difficult because I feel like maybe there’s something I perhaps could’ve done to prevent all this. I know now that I’m for sure going to stick up for myself more and not let my opinion go unheard. Especially for your wedding day you shouldn’t be indifferent on anything. You can still be kind while letting your opinion/feelings be known. Sending positive vibes to everyone and happy spring 🌹❤️