My brother is getting married in 1 week. His fiance has caused a lot of drama in our family who never has drama. They live 3 hours away from us & rarely come back to see family.. until our dad passed away & they got engaged. Now they appear to be family oriented to our extended family.(aunt's/uncle's/cousins) They put on a good front for all the issues they've caused.
My sister paid for all of us to get massages together & they ditched out the morning of because they were arguing about drunk bar fights. My sister could not get her money back because it was Pat the allowed cancellation time frame. Then, the fiance couldn't decide if she was coming on an extended family vacation that we were staying in a cabin for. By the time she finally decided & showed up around 11:30 at night, she threw a fit because she didn't have a "room" & had a pull out couch in the living room. This year for this same family vacation they said they couldn't go because they are planning a wedding but then planned their own vacation that SAME weekend at a different resort away from family. He told my sister that she could not come to the bachelor/bachelorette party because they didn't have room for her. The issues continue on & on.. nothing but drama. that we have NEVER had in the family.
Now, for this wedding my mom is paying for nearly everything. We have one sister who is a bridesmaid. Myself & another sister are "candlelighters". The fiance put myself & my 5 year old daughter (flower girl) down for hair appointments at 8 am in a city over an hour away. We would have to get up at 6:30 am to get our hair done & are not needed for pictures until 1:30 pm. She was so unbelievably nasty about me saying I'm not keeping the 8 am appt & will schedule something else if no one can be moved to a different time. She has all bridesmaids at 9 am & refuses to have them start at 8 am because she doesn't want their "make up melting". Okay fine, so I scheduled my hair for 12 pm. The fiance told me I needed to stop trying to make their day about me.. because I rescheduled my hair to go AFTER everyone else. I think it is unreasonable & inconsiderate to have a 5 year old up at 6:30 am for a 4 pm wedding & her hair will be completely ruined by the wedding.
Then she sends out a new hair schedule & highlights behind my name "she arranged this so if she misses wedding party pics at the lake at 1:30 that's on her). Insert eye roll here as she clearly cannot address me in an adult manner.
So then fast forward a couple more days & brother calls me to tell me that since he is paying for the party bus it his decision that he does not want me on the party bus after the wedding & says "I will have security there to remove you if you do try to get on". Wait? Am I a threat or criminal? I'm confused. So I said, okay, if that's what you want.. I just hope that some day you do not regret the way that you've treated your sisters & family. His response, "nope, never will". My mom is absolutely heart broken at all of this & is so upset that is doing all of this. She completely sides with me & dreads the whole wedding. So, what would you do?