What would you do?

This is a fine option. I did the same. I gave them the color and material I would like and they have to get the style that works for them. I have 9 girls

I paid for those who didn't want to pay for their own. Bought two out of four. Made of honor came up with her own outfit that I approved. Other bridesmaids are wearing black slacks and same white shirt. (Very casual wedding).

Both weddings I’ve been part of I’ve paid for clothing shoes and accessories. They have paid for hair and makeup. I plan to have my guys and girls pay for attire I haven’t decided on accessories yet!

In the US it's customary for the bridesmaids to pay for their attire. In the UK it's more common for the bride and groom to pay for the attendants' attire. However, if the bridal party is paying for their dress, then they should be the ones to set the budget. Before you finalize the attire choice you should ask them each individually and privately what their budget is, including alterations, and go with the lowest budget (or supplement any budgets that are lower than your selected attire).

Our wedding party is paying for their own outfits. I'm letting my maids have final say in their dress after I selected colors from a few shops, this way I know I like the color and style but they ultimately get to pick the price point and style that fits them best right now! They're allowed to wear whatever shoes they want (we'll be barefoot for the ceremony on the beach), and I may gift them each with some earrings. The guys are wearing any suit they want as long as it's gray or blue, with brown shoes (most of them already own those two items).

We aren't covering their hotel room, but we're covering their Uber from the airport to the hotel, and any Ubers we take as a wedding party for the weekend (which shouldn't be many - the hotel, beach, and restaurant are all walking distance from one another), and also all meals for the weekend starting with dinner on Friday night!

It 100% depends on your circle and what's normal, but also your budget and what makes sense for you and your FH!

We just had ours pay for their own. but we did tell people that if they had trouble, then let us know we can definitely help.

for our groomsmen we did buy the bowties and the suspenders. they got their own dress shirt and slacks. it was easier for me to get the bowties since it was in a pack in the color i wanted.

I’ve heard that some brides paid for their entire attire, hair, makeup, all that jazz for their bridesmaids/wedding party.


& perhaps this comes down more to where you’re located in the world / where you’re at in the US. But for the most part in the state I’m located in/even other weddings in family that are in other states, I’ve never been in nor even heard of a wedding (besides rare ones on here) that the bride paid for essentially everything (or even at least just attire) for the wedding party.
I’ve been in so many weddings that it’s up to the wedding party to take care of/pay for whatever they need for the day of. The bride and her family, future spouse etc have enough to worry about and pay for.
It is to my understanding that when you accept the role of being in the wedding party you also fathom and accept the investment/s that come with it.
If it’s in your budget as the bride/future spouse to help with attire, help a little or all with something like their hair/makeup etc. then that’s awesome and I’m sure they’d appreciate it. But I’ve never had a bride do that for me or any friends of mine when we were in their weddings.
Just received separate gifts. And we each had to pay for our own hair, makeup, nails, dress, shoes, travel, etc etc.

We're covering the cost of the groomsmen tuxes and makeup and hair for the bridesmaids (not required, but they all want it and would've paid for it). That comes out to spending pretty much the same on every person in the wedding party.

We are paying for the 3 kids (junior bridesmaid, ring bearer, & flower girl) 100% because they're all in the same family, plus their mom is a bridesmaid, and that stuff adds up quickly. This way as well we can choose what we want for the kids to wear and not feel bad or have to change our minds if it's out of their budget. I don't think there's anything wrong with asking the adults to pay for their own attire, but I feel like the cost of kids clothes can go either way. If it's common in your circle for the kids' outfits to be paid for by you, or if they're expensive and out of the parents' budget, then it might be better if you can pick that up.

As a past bride and bridesmaid/ MOH I’d never expect the bride to pay for anything. Unless willing to. I think if you agree to stand up in a wedding you should be aware of the price that it literally comes with. Weddings are expensive and the bride and groom are paying enough.

I’ve been in 6 weddings as a bridesmaid and I always had to pay for my own dresses.

I've been in 3 weddings and paid for my own dress, shoes and either hair, makeup or both. It comes as part of the deal when you agree to be a bridesmaid. My bridesmaids will be buying their own dress, although they get to pick what they like and sticking to around $100 or less, shoes and probably either hair or makeup. I will be purchasing their accessories as well as thank you gifts for participating in the wedding.

We were planning on having our wedding party pay for their attire and look at affordable options because of it. I am only having a moh and he is having his two brothers for groomsmen. Then some kids do so we are trying to do this on a budget.