What's everyone's beef with a honeymoon fund?

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However, I will say, no one who is receiving all money for their shower is sitting there opening the cards in front of everyone.

I’m struggling with understanding this as well!
In my culture it’s normal to gift bride and groom cash and in large sums, instead of physical gifts. That way the couple can decide how they want to spend it. Not only that people do “newly married fundraisers” little games or bake sales where guests can pitch in a dollar or two and all the proceeds go to the couple.
So people usually don’t mention “I want a honeymoon fund or house down payment fund” because everyone knows to give cash.
My FH is American so we decided to put a few physical items on registry (for his family)but honestly we’d rather get the cash because we paid for the whole wedding ourselves.

I wish money gifts weren’t such a taboo here.
I could care less for the le creuset pot you gave me because it will break and get thrown out. but I’ll cherish that card and knowing that you helped contribute to our family fund forever.

View Quoted Comment By the way , I’m not doing a honeymoon fund but my FHs brother did a honeymoon fund through PayPal and told me that they don’t take a cut of your money!
He just created his screen name and it works like Venmo. You just need to select that the cash you give to the person is a “gift” and not a “business payment”.
Hope that helps!

View Quoted Comment You crack me up! I agree with you, I’m just laughing so hard at the idea of people displaying a bill like holding up a baby shower onsie!

View Quoted Comment Lol yes! Like “Mom, look! This card came with a check that has puppies on it! Thank you!”

I have a Honeymoon fund. It's through Disney.

My POV is that if people don't want to use the honeymoon fund, they don't have to. If having a honeymoon fund upsets the people you're inviting so much that they don't want to attend your wedding then they're not worth it anyways.

No one is making anyone pay or contribute to anything and besides most people give gifts that aren't even on any registry.

I honest dont understand why people get upset over a honeymoon fund. I rather pitch in to a honeymoon fund than to get a physical gift that the bride may or may not want, or give her the same gift someone else is giving. I say do what feels right to you.

I agree with you !!!

For the people not having a bridal shower and having a destination wedding (myself) I think it’s more convenient to have a honey fund.

I guess for me I wouldn't because a honeymoon isn't a need, it's a want, while gifts for the home are more of a need. Most people don't bring an actual gift to the wedding, at least not most of the ones i've been too. Most bring cash. At my first wedding we did get a couple of gifts, but it was 98% cards with money or checks in them. I would never judge a bride for having the fund on the registry, that's her choice. I would just never give to it. I wouldn't judge anyone who would though, because again that's their choice.

I wouldn't do a honeyfund because all of those websites take a percentage of your guests' money so they don't get to give you the full amount. It's much better to have a small registry or none at all to give the hint you'd prefer cash. This way they're not being robbed of any extra money

The service is offered because companies like to make money, they don’t care if it’s rude. I think honeymoon funds are a scam anyway and just another way for people to panhandle at their weddings. If that’s someone’s thing, it’s none of my business, but I do think it’s incredibly rude for showers. Showers are gift giving events. If you don’t want physical gifts, don’t have a shower.

I disagree with everyone. Sorry. While I think it isn't good for a shower, I think it's perfectly fine to have a honeymoon fund for your wedding. Some sites scam, but not all of them.

Showers are gift giving events, not honeymoon fundraising events. I have no problem with a honeymoon fund combined with another registry for showers or weddings. It's offensive to give your guests the only option of gifting you money.
Can you think of another party or personal event, other than perhaps graduation, where the expectation is money?

I think it's tacky. The shower is for gifts for your home and you should pay for your own vacation, not crowd source it from your family and friends.

Everyone is going to be a beautiful bride!!

I don't understand why people dislike it so much. If it's what a couple, who you have never met in your entire life, wants to do, then that is their business.
My fiance and I already have everything we need for our home. Why would we ask for even more items when we literally just had to throw out/give away accumulated stuff that was useless in our home? We're fine with not receiving gifts at all, but for those few people who just really, really want to provide us with something (we already had certain members of his family get weirdly peeved when we said we didn't want gifts), we created the option for a honeymoon/house fund on a different website.
In the end, all I really want is to share our big day with the people we love.

I can see why people would be leary about honeymoon funds because there is a middleman involved, and they take like 2or 3% or something like that but I don't understand why they are "taboo".

Our guest list has a wide variety of gift-giving personalities on it. I think Honeymoon funds or house funds or any type of "fund" is a great idea for the people who want to know where their money is going. People can still just give cash if they don't want a say in what their money is going to or if they don't want to deal with the middleman but there are people who want to contribute to specific things. Those are the people honeymoon funds and the like are made for.