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Hannah
Devoted December 2019

What's the most ridiculous thing someone has gotten mad at you over during planning?

Hannah, on October 9, 2019 at 11:24 AM

Posted in Family and Relationships 77

Just for fun because I'm two months out and my stress levels are through the roof, and laughing at some of this stuff keeps me sane! LOL. I'll go first: 1. My mom got soooo mad when I told her that I was going to serve alcohol, that she said "well then you don't need to get your nanny (grandma) to...

Just for fun because I'm two months out and my stress levels are through the roof, and laughing at some of this stuff keeps me sane! LOL. I'll go first:

1. My mom got soooo mad when I told her that I was going to serve alcohol, that she said "well then you don't need to get your nanny (grandma) to say a prayer during the ceremony then!".... This upset me at first but then I just laughed it off because it sounded so ridiculous. Oh and she did get over it.

2. My fiance's mom got mad because I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid. She told his sister that she didn't think it was fair that she (sister) got to be a bridesmaid and she didn't.... Really? Lol

3. My fiance's aunt got mad and stopped talking to us for a few months over the summer. Blocked us on Facebook and all over something unrelated. Then got mad when she wasn't originally on our guest list.... Ummm??

4. The same aunt recently got mad because she wasn't invited to the bachelorette party. Let me first say, my sister (MOH) and fiance's sister (bridesmaid) are planning the party. They know me best and their plans are spot on. Fiance's other aunt and mom have taken it upon themselves to also plan a party, even though we've told them several times that my sister and his sister have it covered. So they mentioned it in front of their sister (aunt that is mad), and then she called fiance's sister yesterday saying she cried herself to sleep because she wasn't invited. When fiance's sister told her that my sister was actually planning it and that (aunt's) sisters are just going off the rails, she responds with "well I asked my sister and she said it was because y'all were going to a bar and I don't go to bars. I don't know why y'all can't just come to (town where she lives) and just have dinner at (bbq place). That's something everyone would want to do" ..... I. JUST. CAN'T. All I can do is laugh because the sister who's mad is being so ridiculous. 1. It's MY bachelorette party and I promise you it will not just be dinner at a bbq joint. 2. I don't want either of the two aunts nor fiance's mom to come - that would just be weird. 3. Other two aunts need to take a freaking chill pill cause even if they do come to the party, it's not going to be their plan..... Also as a side note, mom insisted we make t shirts for the bachelorette party. Um, excused me but I am NOT wearing a freaking t-shirt to my party!


At this point, I'm just laughing. I honestly just don't have the mental capacity to stress about such childish drama from grown women. I have a billion and one other things to worry about. Anybody else dealing with just absolutely ridiculous drama during wedding planning? I can't make this stuff up! LOL

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  • N
    Dedicated November 2019
    Nita ·
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    Orthodox haha
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  • Destiny
    Just Said Yes September 2020
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    My mother is grumpy that I want to have a wedding at all... she told me it's a waste of money in her opinion because it won't rank in the top 100 things we do together in our lifetime. She's been married 3 times, so I'm not shocked. But still disappointed and now feel zero motivation to involve her. Doesn't help my sister feels the same (also divorced). Fortunately FILs are very supportive and excited, but it doesn't feel great to have the family that isn't supportive.

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  • Heather
    Expert April 2020
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    My family is all "it's your wedding, you do what you want," basically a "we're happy if you're happy." FH's mom isn't necessarily mad at me for anything, but there are some things she doesn't agree with. Like she isn't happy that someone won't be delivering the cake and when she finds out how small our centerpieces are, I'm sure she won't be happy about that either. Haha. But our wedding, not hers.

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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    My mother got mad her name wasn't on the invitations (she didn't even ASK about the wedding until 5 months into planning).

    She refused to attend and made her entire family decline/ignore the wedding as well.

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  • Brandi
    Devoted July 2020
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    My FMIL was mad that the venue was 30 minutes outside of the city. Called FH up and had a whole rant about how no one would show up, our wedding costs too much and she and FFIL are refusing to help. 🤷🏾‍♀️
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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    Shoot quiche sounds amazing to me! LOL SOME PEOPLE!

    Oh lord, he's at *that* age. Haha my 11 year old nephew thinks he knows everything and REFUSES to get his hair cut. We have to bribe him lol.

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    That actually sounds really interesting! What color is your dress? I've always wanted to wear a version of white (mine is champagne and ivory) but I'm fascinated by colored wedding dresses!

    Your dad will just have to get over that lol.

    I definitely think it is icky of your stepmom to want to wear white even if you aren't wearing it. It's just rude. Plus there are SOOOO many other colors she could wear - why wear the ONE color she shouldn't?

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    My mom and stepdad have actually told me multiple times how dumb they think it is that we are spending so much on a wedding instead of just getting married in the courthouse, taking an awesome honeymoon, and then putting a down payment on a house. I try to just let it roll off my back. They have both been married several times too. I will say, this is my second marriage (the first I was young and dumb and it was doomed from the start). So when my fiance said he wanted a big wedding, I was really hesitant because I've already done the wedding thing (although smaller and thrown together) before. But once we actually started planning, I'm now really excited about it. My parents still think it's not the best financial decision, but they've let up about it as the months have gone by and even excitedly talk about it sometimes! Your family will come around! And even if they don't, it's YOUR day and they will be happy at the wedding seeing you happy!

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    True that girl! There are so many unsolicited opinions that come with wedding planning. And at first I really tried to listen to all of their "advice". Until I realized that you can't ever please everyone and you just have to decide what YOU want and do it. It's one of the most important days of your life, to them it's not as important and they will forget the details way faster than you do.

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    OH MY GOSH! That is horrible! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I was always under the understanding that if the parents didn't pay for the wedding, they didn't need to be listed on the invitation. My parents aren't on our invites either. I think ours just say "together with their families". I hate that your mother wasn't there, but honestly, if she's skipping your wedding over something so petty, your day probably had way less drama and stress without her there.

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    30 minutes?! Haha that's not even far! I drive 30 minutes one way to work every single day. I guess where I'm from, we just expect to have to drive a bit to get to anything. Live in the middle of nowhere and you get used to it. If she can't make a 30 minute drive for her SON'S wedding, something is wrong.

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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
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    Yes, that is our relationship. I bribe him. He does what I ask. It works for now Smiley xd

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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    Oh, I didn't want her there. However, my father and stepmother helped pay, so their names were on there.
    I got a call from my cousins saying, "we don't feel a connection with the invitations because your mother isn't on it."
    1. We never shared a last name.
    2. My middle name was on it, which is my mother's maiden name.
    3. ...My name was on it and I'm their cousin?????

    Anyway, it was much better without her there.

    SIL also threw a lot of drama within the BP, it was mostly kept from me, but I am under the impression she hated us having a co-ed shower to which she was invited and asked to help out with (I don't want to know how she would have reacted to being invited to a only women shower, as my SIL!!)... That's STILL a thing.
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  • Hannah
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    They didn't feel a CONNECTION with the INVITATIONS?! What does that even mean?! Hahahaha who has connections with paper? They sound crazy.


    Why would she have a problem with a shower? I don't even understand.... showers are fun!

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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    I just kind of stared blankly at that.
    It was clearly a line fed to them by my mother to create some kind of outrage. Pure nonsense.

    As for SIL... she didn't like the way my MOH was doing it... she insulted her... but she wanted her "brother to be happy" (no mention of me), she didn't want to help with any other planning things (we asked very little, and she was always "busy" - though we know she wasn't), she was apparently so bad that the rest of the BP thought she was a brat. (She was 26 at the time.) She even refused to apologize unless DH insisted, and then she'd think about it. (She did not talk to me during the shower, and barely during the wedding.)

    She still refers to the wedding as DH's, in a way that deliberately leaves me out of it.

    My response is to pretty much ignore her. She's behaving like a child, and I don't pay attention to tantrums. I've told DH this is on him. She's his sister, and I spent years trying to befriend her.
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    Redneck or no, a pig roast is AWESOME!!! OMG, so yummy!! Your guests will love it! I can't believe she's being judgy about that. Weird.

    I'm glad you're not freaking out over her opinions. This is your wedding (and FHs), and you should do it how you want it, regardless of what others think. Smiley smile

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    WOWWWWW. The amount of immaturity you are surrounded by amazes me. Kudos to you for just keeping your cool and letting it go! They all sound like nightmare people.

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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
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    Ohh there are several:


    Someone was mad at me for debating on not allowing plus ones because "that will make people not want to show up". Okay, well if the most important day of my life isn't more important than you having a plus one that we don't even know, then don't bother coming at all. I will NOT be paying for a bunch of complete strangers. Not happening. It is my day, my rules. What I say goes.


    Someone was mad at me for debating cash bar because "you shouldn't make guests pay anything at a wedding since they are 'guests'." Well sorry I'm not rich, if you'd like to pay for the bar tab so guests don't have to pay for their drinks- more power to you. Again, my day, my rules.


    Someone was mad at me for choosing a ballgown instead of a fitted dress because it'll be hard to dance in supposedly. I don't like how a fitted dress looks on me because I'm not some skinny, hour glass figure woman. I'm curvy and I want what I want.


    Someone was mad at me for not having all my bridal party in the exact same dresses. I have both my maid & matron of honor in the same dress and my 3 bridesmaids in a different dress than the MOH's but all 3 of them are in the same dress.


    Someone was mad at me for not having the cake cutting be within the last 90 minutes of the reception. I want it right after dinner. And here we are again with what I say goes.


    It's insane!!! It's YOUR day. WHO CARES what everyone else wants.

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    Well the first two sound way more budget related than anything, and it boggles my mind that some feel you MUST pay for those things. We didn't put a guest cap on, but only because we have a little flexibility in our budget. We also almost didn't have alcohol at all because it seemed like an unimportant expense but in the end decided to do it. So I can TOTALLY agree with you, that's just plain dumb reasons to be mad.

    The last three actually just crack me up! Lol. They were mad about YOUR dress? Because you, as the BRIDE, shouldn't pick your own wardrobe?! And mixed bridesmaid dresses are so common now and as long as they are tastefully done, soooo cute! Again, I can't imagine getting mad over someone else's dress. And freaking cake cutting?!! Who cares as long as you get cake?! We are also cutting our cake right after dinner. It just made more sense to me.

    You're right though, it is totally insane how much everyone thinks their opinion matters in someone else's day!

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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
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    I literally only care about 3 or 4 people's opinions and even then, if I want to do it a certain way after getting those opinions, I will lol

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