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What's wrong with me?!

Sandy, on May 31, 2019 at 8:50 PM Posted in Planning 0 6

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My FH and I talked. He is such a sweet man and I love him so much. We talked about cutting our guest list to save $. He originally invited 100 people, and tonight I watched him knock it down to 58. It killed me seeing the pain in his eyes. Fh has a large family, grantit I cut down my guest list too, but not as much as he did because originally I had only invited 32 and knocked it down to 22. (I have never met anyone on my dads; my dad I know obviously, but no one on his side of the family. Long story.) Anyways I feel awful, and I know the way to cut costs (well, one of the ways.) is to cut the guest list, but I feel so guilty for hurting him. I love him so much and just want him to be happy.

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Cher Horowitz · on May 31, 2019 at 9:43 PM
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It's always important to have the wedding you can afford. You're wise to realize that! Sadly, if you don't have the funds, cutting the guest list had to be done. It might be hurting FH's feelings - if he can't pay for all his family, he can't invite them all. Simple as that!
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Lizbeth · on May 31, 2019 at 10:04 PM
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I'm so sorry 😔 this is definitely hard but it is the right choice for cutting down on some $$$.
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Kelly · on May 31, 2019 at 10:12 PM
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See if you can cut costs on other things, like center pieces and flowers that honestly nobody notices and have more people instead.
It's also good to have RSVPs out early so if someone says no you can call and invite someone else from your husband's list.
If you really feel bad about it you could postpone the wedding and save the money.
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latasha · on May 31, 2019 at 10:41 PM
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I totally understand. Similar situation but it was me who had to do the cutting. We had a guestlist of 420. FH only had 102 ppl the rest was my family. I have large families on both sides. I am very close to both families but I refused to host that many people even if I was a millionaire. I had to make some tough choices and the cuts hurt but I’m seriously ok with my choices. Your FH will be ok and those sacrifice is unfortunately a part of marriage and life really lol
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D · on May 31, 2019 at 11:38 PM
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Are you sure you can't find other ways to save money? Weddings are very expensive but certain things are not necessary. I only ask this because it seems to be hurting you both with such deep cuts to the guest list.
We took out transportation. Priced A TON of venues, planning on DIY decor, and price hunting everything.
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Sara · on May 31, 2019 at 11:54 PM
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Agree. It's important to know what you can afford, but I would revisit the idea of finding some other places to save. We did DIY Sams club flowers, Amazon/ Etsy decor, dj is a family friend, a friend is officiating, budget photographer, no DOC, Azazie wedding dress (totallyyyy recommend!). We saved a TON and were able to bring it up to 105 guests. My best advice is to make an Excel spreadsheet of your budget and expenses and stay organized. Good luck!
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