What's your reason why?

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I’m not saying there’s a problem with your relationship because you don’t want to get married but I think it’s important for a relationship for the couple to be on the same page about marriage.

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Because calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend after spending 6 years together seemed silly.


In all honesty, we both decided it was the next step. We had already been living together for years and shared some finances. Also, I was about to quit my job and go back to school full time to get my doctorate, so we are primarily subsiding on his income for a few years. Marriage provides certain legal protections as well as social standing compared to dating and living together. We wanted to essentially solidify our commitment to each other in a legal way that also provides some privileges and protections.

I've been married twice and him once. We have been together almost 6 years. He was ready to marry shortly into our relationship but I wasnt. He had to wait till my 5 year mark lol. But I want to marry him because I knownits right. He is my ying to my yang. (How ever you say it). He makes everything feel right. Plus the financial aspect of marriage. I mean everything we have is already together, but when we buy a house I want us to share his last name. When I die I want his last name. I mean it's the last step to become one.

I feel similar to you. This is my FH’s first marriage and he wants it so much but I really don’t care about it. I’m happy to just “live in sin” forever. I’m excited to have found my life partner and having been single since my first husband died 7+ years ago, I understand the importance of a really good, solid partnership, not just one day of a really great party. So I’m getting married as a public acknowledgement that we are a team, that id do anything for him, and that life is short and we should enjoy ourselves.

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I want to be his wife. I want to legally state my commitment to him. I knew he was The One after 7 weeks. I want us both to have legal rights in case of illness or death. I want to be part of him. I want a level of protection. I want us to be as connected as possible. I want to be with him forever. It's one way for us to close the distance (he's in AZ and I'll be in England). I want to be part of his family. Even his fussy dog likes me.

As an added bonus, my mum will approve of him!

She has a history of not being keen on my partners, but he will win her over with his wonderful spirit.