When do/did you plan on moving in? (For those who do/did not live together)

My FH was living in an apartment when we met and I had my own house. After we talked about marriage and set the date we decided he would moved into my house. He moved in one month after proposing to me, which was November of 2010 and our wedding is April of 2011

I would not want to move in the weeks leading up to the wedding I would either do it a couple months prior or after...

I don't want to move in after wedding definitely but maybe we'll do it a month before, little by little like you Noei but we won't officially move in together until the wedding night. I don't know how much work it is to move, not sure if a week we'll be enough. thanks

The few weeks before we're going to slowly move my stuff in except for the things I need to get ready the day of the wedding.. Makeup, shampoo and all my shower stuff, the clothes I'll be wearing the day of, etc.. And already have my honeymoon stuff packed. We aren't staying there our wedding night, we're going straight to where our flight leaves from, and then going on our honeymoon the following week.. So when we get back all of my stuff will already be there.

FH and I were actually roommates before we started dating. He was renting a room in my house. When we started dating he moved out and just a couple months ago he moved back to the house and I'm now crashing at my parents place. Its nice b/c we don't have to move anything (other than a bit of clothes and toiletries) after the wedding.

If I woke up in your shoes I think Dec 1st would be the latest I'd secure housing. We've got about a month and a half left and I honestly couldn't imagine putting anything else on our plates (especially something like moving) much closer to the day. So if you go w/ that target date- just plan plan plan how you're going to get it all done (or half-done). Remember, all you really need is a bed when you first move in... you have lots to do before the wedding, and only unpack and write thank you's after. I say decorate post-nuptials. ...Another thought- is it not possible for you to stay in one of the current residences for a few weeks after the wedding?

A week may or may not be enough time to move in and get set up. You can probably do all the moving itself in a day or two, assuming you are already packed. It's the unpacking and organizing that takes alot of time. FH moved in almsot a year ago, and we still have boxes of his that are unpacked... Actually, he still has boxes taped up from 3 moves ago...haha!

We were already living together, but we moved 3 days after the wedding. It worked out really well. We hired movers b/c we didn't want to do a lot of work on our honeymoon vacation lol. So the move itself only took a day, but it's the unpacking. We've been super antsy to get everything put away. But it'll take you a few weeks to get everything organized and put away. We still have several boxes that need to be unpacked and put somewhere. I would suggest to move a month even two months before the wedding, that way you're not so stressed about time. Make sure you enlist the help of your bridal party to help more with the wedding plans while you're moving and what not.

My FH lives in North Carolina and I live in CT, but hes military. We are waiting for his contract to be up and then moving in together here in CT. It will be in May and we are getting married in July...

WOW...I'm really curious to know how it works out for couples that have never lived together. Very interesting....

Vanilla- How it works out? For centuries that was the ONLY way. It was very wrong to live together before getting married. It didn't actually become "normal" until the 70s.. I'm not saying those that live together first are wrong, because its not my place to judge. But it used to be that NOT living together first was the normal thing to do.

@ Vanilla_Nut.. me and FH don't live together yet, if we had it our way we would but its just not possible right now. FH's papa gave us a house that he owns and has been paid off for years, we just have to fix it up (only floors and paint is all it needs) first. Then once its ready to be moved into its ultimately up to his papa if we live together before we are married (his famiily is very very old fashioned.. so I have no clue if he will let us live together before we are married).. although everytime we get to talking about the house his papa keeps saying how FH will need someone to move in with him to cook for him so he doesn't starve... he's said that quite a bit.. so we're thinking he may just let us live together.. thats what we're hoping for anyway

Great ladies, I guess the moving is not such a big deal it's the unpacking... ugh. I think we should probably get the lease to start in November just to allow enough time for us to do both the move little by little and the unpacking and getting everything (or almost everything) set up. If we could do that I would probably use the time to unpack the gifts from the shower as well and write the thank you notes then (kill two birds with one stone hopefully).

I'll be sure to let you know Vanilla, both FH and I have never lived outside of our parents homes but we have plenty of friends we recently got married and in the were in the same boat as us and from what I can tell, things are working out just fine for them. I should probably ask them how they did some of these things just to have a better idea.

Thanks again ladies.

In a year. lol. I'm probably the only bride on the planet that won't actually live with her husband until a year after marriage :/

Good luck Chelsea and congrats on getting the house. That's very thoughtful of his dad, hope you guys get your wish but regardless I think you'll be fine, you're getting it either way.

@KK get a grip. There's no need to get angry or hostile.

I wonder this because people tend to find out more about their spouse when they live together. They find out that they can't stand how they leave the toilet set up, keep house ect.

I don't think I was hostile or angry at all.. I just think its funny when people say things like that because living together first is so "normal" now, that people don't realize that people for years and years didn't live together before they got married. And those people were the grandparents and great grandparents who were married for 50+ years. And I'm not saying that people who live together first aren't going to stay married long at all. I'm just defending the fact that its not "crazy" for people to get married without living together. The way I see it.. If you're relationship isn't strong enough to get through problems like leaving the toilet seat up, and living issues, then you shouldn't BE getting married.

I think saying "get a grip" is the angry or hostile thing to say.. Not me giving my opinion. I promise I wasn't angry at all

We're getting married 10/1 and moved in together mid-November. It would have been sooner, but we had trouble finding a place we both liked.

Thanks patricia We're looking at it the same way too. If he does let us live together then awesome but if not we're definitely not going to complain since we won't have to pay rent or anything! Now that its warmer weather hopefully we will start working on it soon... and I'm sure I will have a thread started once we do specifically for fixing our house lol

Lol @Vanilla I don't think KK was getting hostile or angry she was just stating a known fact.

I would've loved to live with him if I could but in our culture it will be disrespectful to our parents (trust me it doesn't matter how old you are, in our culture you move out only for school or when you're getting married) and of course our beliefs as well.

WOW.....***as I shake my head in laughter****

Anyway ladies......

I wish you all the best of luck!