When do/did you plan on moving in? (For those who do/did not live together)

Whoa Whoa! Calm down chickies! I'm with KK though about how it 'used' to be. My FH and I don't live together, and I made that a point throughout our relationship. Mainly b/c we both have custody of our own children....I think it's a lot different when you add 4 kids to the mix! As for us, we haven't decided yet. Financially, yes, we want to do it this summer, but we are still trying ot sell his house in Katy as it's not NEARLY large enough for the 6 of us. We would like to move by the beginning of next school year tho so that the kids are settled and we don't have to 'uproot' them next April.

Vanilla- its all a matter of what's important. If the couple is mature, knows themselves well, honest w/ each other and TRULY committed... the little things (or really big obnoxious things) are just part of the daily choice to Love. Each couple (before marriage) should ask- is it more important that you're completely compatible or more important that you're both Fully committed for life, no matter what. Your answer likely reflects itself in your relationship already (whether you live together or not)

I will definitely keep that in mind Noei, we both we'll be moving furnitures like my bed (brought a king size a year ago I don't see the point of getting a new one) and some other new things he'd purchased and some of my things. I'll need a really big truck, lol.

we only live about 10 minutes from each other and we don't plan on moving too far away either, one place we looked at is about 3 minutes from my house. We'll see.

@Jessica, so you already found the place? How did that work out> it's not too soon?

Good point Jen!

My comment was not ment to offend anyone. I could care less if you choose or not choose to live with your partner first. I'm only wondering if it has an impact on your marriage in the beginning. I have lived with my finace for years and have to admit that it was difficult in the beginning. Obviously, almost 9 years later we have a strong and healthy relationship to we survived but I have lots of friends that found out after living together that they weren't as compatible as they would have liked to believe.

Anyway, again I wish you all the best of luck!

@Noei & @FMC are so right! I have a daughter & just want her to see me living right!
My FH & I don't leave together either! We are looking for a house as we speak. We don't plan to live together until we are married. If we find a house before the wedding, we will move everything & he will stay there! After the wedding my daughter & I will move in!

Jen I LOVE your comment! Its exactly what I was trying to say, but not nearly as well. FS and I feel fully committed, and whether we're 100% compatible when it comes to our living situation isn't really the important thing to us. Yes we want to get along and things to go smoothly.. But even if there are kinks to be worked out, we know we'll work through them. We've been together 8 years.. If the transition of living together is so hard that its bigger than the love we have for each other or worth losing those 8 years over, then I feel like we shouldn't be together in the first place. But that's just US. I don't claim to be "right" or that our way is the "only way" because different things work for different people and different relationships.

Well, I don't think there is anything wrong with living together before marriage. I was raised in a Christian household and was taught that "shacking" is wrong but I didn't see the point of us living apart, paying (at the time) two separate rent payments when we were always at each other's apartment anyway. We had dated a year and a half before we moved in together (in my apartment), and he proposed to me a year after that. Also, with us only paying one rent and househould bills, we were able to save enough money to buy a house. Yes, people looked at me sideways when we bought the house together and were unmarried, but we loved each other and we knew it would work. For me personally, I am glad that I lived with him beforehand because I already know his "habits" and I won't have to readjust after the wedding. Now we can focus on saving for a bigger house when the kiddies start coming!

We don't live together and haven't quite figured out when we will. I do like the idea of getting a place already BEFORE the wedding and have him moved in completely and me move stuff over slowly. So that there isn't all this unpacking to do but we'll see. I get the whole transition thing of living together- but we'll deal with it. He's here every single day and has been since I was hospitalized a year and a half ago, and moved closer so that he could help with things here. So I got used to that. I tend to have to do things slowly and adapt. I'm a toe tipper in life.

I moved most of my stuff in about a month before the wedding, but I didn't move in myself until the wedding night (we stayed at the apartment before heading to the airport for our honeymoon). My lease was up, and he had a free weekend to help me make the 12 hour round trip and load the UHaul.

I had the good fortune of having someone in his town who was willing to let me use their spare bedroom for the five weeks until the wedding. If that had not been the case, I would have had to go stay with my parents (8 hours away), or found an extended stay hotel.

Well, FI and I already live together and have done so for over a year and a half. We joke that one day I just stopped going home haha. We live in a tiny apartment, and will probably be here until after the wedding because it's pretty cheap and we really want to try and save money if possible. I think you're being smart if you get your lease in November so you don't have to deal with it in the weeks to you wedding.

I asked my mother if it was okay for my FH and I to live together because she doesn't like cohabitation and neither do I. My mother told me since the wedding was only 4 months away and the venue was paid for it was alright.

Since I have the house, this is where we will be living for a while. Our marriage is the 9th of July so in order for him not to pay an additional month (whole month of July) just for 1 week, he will move all his stuff at the end of June. That will leave us with just 1 week to figure out what to do for that week. We don't believe in living together before marriage. He said he may stay with a friend. Worst case he'll stay here in the guest bedroom.

We will be moving in together in May, we are going through the home buying process now and we are supposed to be closing on our house April 29. It will be nice to be settled into our home before we get married.

I'm pretty sure you mean not living together until the wedding, but my fiance and I will be moving in together this summer (he already has a house, just waiting for his roommate to move out when he gets married in July), and we are getting married in October of next year

Our is a little complicated... haha... we have been living together for almost the whole time we have been together. Most people don't move in together when first dating, but after a month in a half we did (because of my circumstances mainly because I was in a bad situation and he didn't want me to be in a bad position).

My FH & I lived together 2 months after we started dating.. partly because the boy just wouldn't go home! I guess we never thought about living apart after we realized how much we loved each other.. to be fair, we were great friends for 3-4 years prior to our dating so we already knew we were great with eachother.

If we didn't live together, we probably wouldn't even be able to afford the wedding we'll be having so we probably would have moved in just as soon as we were engaged.. it just makes sense not to pay two different rents when we're both paying for our wedding!

As far as it being proper? eh.. my mom is a free spirit and my dad is more conservative so he wasn't as happy with it.. his feelings on the issue have been improved since we've been engaged though, so that's good. I wouldn't try moving too close to your wedding date, either before or after... planning the wedding is stressful enough and moving on top of planning could be disasterous since things tend to get lost

Or damaged during a move and if you do it right after your wedding, you may find conflict with your honeymoon! I think it's sweet when couples can wait until they get married to move in, but I'm not sure how anyone actually does it!

Me and my FH have pretty much always lived together. We werent together very long before we moved in together, and i think it was one of the smartest things weve done in our relationship. We've learned what its like to live w/each other, and of each others idiosyncrasies. Theres going to be things that your partner does that gets on your nerves but its nothing thats life altering. Leaving the toilet seat up, or not putting the towel in the hamper are small non-imporatant things. In your life as a married couple there is going to be so many more things your going to face that theres no need to get angry over the small things. Moving in together, for us, was a great choice, it may not be for everyone, but i would recommend living together first. Thats just my opinion tho.

As they say different strokes for different folks. I support and applaud anyone who waits until marriage before living together. However, in my case I'm glad that we did live together beforehand as it was what affirmed the decision for us to get married in the first place. Getting to know each other is more than just him leaving the seat up or taking the garbage out. It's understanding the annoyances of one another, knowing when to give each other space, and most importantly maintaining who you were prior to the relationship. As easy as it is to say, it's really hard to do. For me living with DS proved to be very beneficial for us and has helped our marriage.

We waited until after the wedding. But we actually closed on our condo in January and decorated and got furniture and things like that so this way the night of the wedding we were able to go home and it feel like a home.