When do/did you plan on moving in? (For those who do/did not live together)

@The future Mrs. Hardcastle: NotFroofy and I have a similar history. When we "met" (online, introduced by a mutual friend), she lived in the UK and I lived in the US. Going out for coffee was not exactly one of our options! She had recently sold her house and quit her job so that she could use the house proceeds to retrain for a new career. I therefore suggested that she take the training course here, living with me while she did so, so that we could determine whether we were compatible. If we had not been, she could have moved out at the end of the six-month training course, and would have been no worse off than if she had taken the course in the UK. I even had what used to be the nanny's quarters in our basement available if we decided to end the relationship before the six months were up. However, since she is still here 10 years later, I think we can assume that we were compatible. ;-)

@Singing Diva, I'm gonna try to do either the 1st of November or maybe the 15th, I'm not sure if we'll find an apartment that can prorate the rent for that month. If they do, that'll be great if not, we'll get it and we'll start moving things the first week of November and hopefully get it all done by the end of nov so I don't have to worry about it in december at all.

Thanks everyone for input. Some of you ignored the question at hand but it's okay, most of you point me in the right direction. I love you all and it's nice to see all your opinions. Thanks again.

I haven't read any previous postings, but you will definitely need more than a week or so before the wedding to move. FH and I weren't planning on moving until after the wedding, but my parents made plans to have rooms ready for family guests so we were out! lol I have only lived at home and FH had minimal stuff so we didnt think it would be that difficult to move. It took us two days to get EVERYTHING moved into the new place. And even now (this is two months later) we still dont have everything unpacked. With the stress of planning a wedding, I would say the earlier the better. Good luck!

My FH & I are already living together, but from personal experience a week is not going to be enough time to get everything set up... especially with the wedding being so soon...

Patricia, I defintely agree that you should try to start the lease at least in mid November, if not the beginning. Hubby & I moved all of our stuff into our apartment 7 days before our wedding (and the move was 1.5 hours from where I had been living). Hubby lived there (since he was the one with a job in that area, hence the big move) and I stayed at his parents house (since I had already found someone to take over my lease). It was really nice getting back from the honeymoon and having everything at our place, but if I could go back I think we should have started the lease a month earlier. We still would have lived apart, but it would have made things a lot less hectic.

As for the adjustment to living together- it went very smoothly for hubby & me. When we were dating we were 100% ourselves around each other. We knew annoying habits, we saw how each handled household duties (and helped each other with each other's duties), we didn't hide anything from the other, and we...

Talked about any worries we might have as well as how we wanted to do things once we did live together. We've been married almost 6 months and the only surprise I've had is that he helps our around the house more than I thought he would.

I know it doesn't work for everybody, and you can't control how upfront another person is with you. I'm just glad that we were able to be truely ourselves with each other long before we were married.

@2nd bride.. I had recently gotten evicted out of my apartment because my ex didn't pay any of the bills and left me high and dry at a friend's house. My FH and I were friends at the time so I guess he wanted to "pick up the pieces" and we hung out more and started dating. But my mom was trying to get a lot of money out of me and told me she basically wanted almost $500 because she had gotten behind on the electric bill (I wasn't living with her long....maybe about a month) and I told her I can't give her the whole $500, but I can contribute $50-$100 because daycare was almost $300 every two weeks. It didn't matter, she wanted the money or me out. So my FH said I could stay with him and we have been living together since then.

FH and I bought a house about a year ago. However, only FH lives there. It was an old house and needed some work, so he didn't move into it right away. We decided a long time ago that we weren't going to live together until we were married. He stays at our house and when I am home from school, I crash at my parents. I agree that the earlier you do it the better. I am so happy that when I graduate and move home I don't have to worry about the house and making sure that everything is moved in or decorated how I want it. Weddings are stressful enough, don't make it worse by adding more stress.

View Quoted Comment I thought I must be the only one…. I still haven’t moved In yet and I am wondering how to make this transition ? Like …. We just got married, now what?