When people ask how much you paid...

I think it's rude but it doesn't personally bother me when anyone asks.

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Lol, when people ask me, I pull a number out of my a**, it's nobody's business, and if it gets back to me that we spent X than I know who's been talking.

I tell them it's tacky to discuss and rude to ask.

I had someone asked how much I'm paying per person so they know how much to spend on their gift for me. um what? I just referred them to my registry. it's none of their business. We got a loan and that's how we paid. we budgeted and spent well. it's not their business if I spent 10 k or 30 k.

Rude! My future SIL asked me how much my dress was and how much our entire budget is. She's planning a wedding herself, but I still don't like discussing things like that because I don't want to compare myself to others, it's just stupid. It just makes things awkward because they have a lower budget than us and I don't want any jealousy or hard feelings over money!

That does seem rude. I have asked my sister around how much she spent, but she's been married for years and I am planning mine. I discuss it in bits with friends, but overall no. That's like someone coming over for dinner and asking how much you spent on them.

I tell people we came in under budget and leave it at that. People are just noise, people were asking me at my reception what the who wedding cost.... Like really?

I'm actually with KristinMichelle's meme! I've made jokes about how we thankfully have millions to fall back on.

I agree that if another bride asks me, that's okay. Otherwise I probably wouldn't answer. I'd say something like "I'm so tired of thinking about budget, let's talk about something else."

The only place I'd ever discuss that is on WW.

I was walking my daughter home from the bus stop. She goes to Catholic School. A neighbor was out and yells across the street, How can you afford that? I knew what he meant, but I decided to mess with him and his overly personal question. I yelled back that she was small and didn't eat much. How did you afford your kids?

I just tell them none of your business. My FH has that bad habit as well as of asking people how much things are. He's really into cars and he asked the photographer (who has a very high end car) how much it cost!! I was freaking MORTIFIED!! The photographer actually gave him a number. I was so embarrassed. lol

Wow, nobody has asked me this, and, if they did, I wouldn't share.

Actually my grandma did ask how much our jazz/swing band cost and I told her ..... I regret telling her though hahaha, because she said it was too much lol! I guess nobody that I'm not super close to has asked. I say, keep it to yourself. It's nobody's business.

I says its in our budget. I swear I get that question all the time especially from family members and its annoying!!

An aunt asked my dad how much we were paying per plate. I think she was looking to see how much she is paying for her son's which will be outside vs. mine which is at a banquet hall and seeing what they could of gotten, or not gotten, if they did a hall. One of my BMs asked how much my dress was. I said it came in under budget. I feel awkward talking to this friend about money as she has had money issues because of a job layoff in the past. I think its more curiosity vs. rudeness. I asked my god-sister roughly how much she paid from some of her vendors for budgetary planning but she knew why I was asking. I'm also using 2 of the same vendors she had.

It is 2014 - by this time, we have been conditioned to "over-share" and think that it is ok. It may be that the people asking are just curious and forget that some information should be private. People should have better manners, sure, but most people aren't asking to be rude - just nosy.

You can always use the "That is an interesting question, why do you ask?" but I usually just give a vague answer and move on.

For example:

Nosy Rosy: "You're renting a whole restaurant?! Gee, how much did THAT cost!?"

Me: "I know, we are so excited about having our reception there! I am having so much fun thinking of ways to decorate the space."

Prying Peter: "Nice rock - he must have spent a fortune!"

Me: "Shh, don't tell - but I'm pretty sure he stole it! (giggle)"

Meddling Mary: "You shouldn't spend more than $xxxx on your dress - you're only going to wear it for one day and then it'll hang at the back of your closet forever!"

Me: "Oh, I plan to wear that dress every chance I get - it is so pretty and I love it so much!! If I could wear it to work, I would!"

If anyone presses you for information after you've already tried to deflect, you can say "I'm really not comfortable discussing this" and change the subject.

I haven't had anyone ask. That's so rude. I did ask my best friend how much she paid for things to get a general idea about how much things would cost me, but she was pretty open with me while she was planning hers.

I've gotten this question and I just answer with "a lot!!". I'm going to use @Nadia 's answer from now on, though. I like that one better, lol.

Yep, and it's annoying...including the person who asked how big my diamond was. I was like... "I didn't ask before saying 'yes'...hello!"