When people offer to help......

I didn't let anyone help me because 1 I had it under control and 2 I didn't want to hear their input when I knew what I wanted. DH's mom asked constantly what she could help with and I just politely told her that everything was all set, but I'd let her know if something came up. That's all you can do I think, unless you do want them to help.

There's nothing wrong with not taking them up on their offer.

I don't want anyone to help. My FMIL has repeatedly offered to help us with the cost and I've told her NO a bunch of times. Now that we have everything booked, she's insisting on giving us money. Whatever, it can just go towards the photography because we already have the vendors we want.

My mom addressed and sent my invitations. Which was more of a an obvious situation because I have the handwriting of a 2nd grader.

That's all.

My fh aunt is a baker she asked what we needed help with so we asked her if she'd make our cupcakes.

At the very beginning I knew who I was going to choose as my wedding planner because together we have planned other people's events. I needed someone to take the load off me while still hearing my desires. When people ask, I simply say "I have an event planner taking care of those details" then they back off. My MOHs were assigned to help with the bridesmaids (I have a wedding party of 10). I worked closely with them to choose the dress, shoes, makeup, and jewelry. My fiancé has a best man who keeps constant updates on groomsmen and their rentals. He even gave one of the groomsmen a ride to get measured. My mom took on the task of bridal shower and I was okay with that. Everything else I have been doing along with my fiancé: cake tasting, food choices, save the dates, invites, etc. I am a DIY creative person and he has been having fun helping me with that.

So far I've said no, in the nicest way possible. The only thing I will really need help with is decorating the day of. And mom and her two sisters are all gung ho about it. I'm just way to picky to actually let someone do any of my diy projects......

When you're a bride who knows what she wants for her wedding, there's no need for "help". I'm going through the same thing. I think as the day gets closer you'll need help with little things like picking up some more ribbons or candles or putting stamps on the envelopes. Your wedding is right around the corner!!

I didn't have many offers. One kind friend took me to (I can't drive, so this was a HUGE help) cake tastings, dress tryings, florists, photog-- I think I got to the DJ myself, and that was it. But then, she said she'd pick up my dress, and didn't-- only realized the day before the wedding, "Crap! I don't have my dress!" barely got to the store before it closed. She was supposed to pick up my flowers, too, but after the dress fiasco, I just asked my sister to do it.

Another person-- mom of my best friend-- kindly gave me a ride to the stylist the morning of (again, with the not driving, this was a HUGE help), and also insisted on making favors for me when I mentioned I was going to skip them. So sweet of her!

Of course, I was the, "As long as we're married, i don't really care" bride, so I was ready to take any help that was offered.

As the bride I really appreciate anyone telling me they are willing to help but I know I want everything to be perfect so I can't help but do it myself. I did have some help researching vendors though I asked my bridesmaids who they used and if they knew anyone. Turns out one of my bridesmaids cousins is a professional photographer and he gave us the deal of a lifetime on our photography. I wouldn't hesitate to take advise but always make the final decision with your FH

Not really. I like things my way and when people offer to help they want thing their way not yours.

I have no BP so it's not an option for me. I don't think I could accept help though. I'm too much of a control freak.

I'm just commenting to say that your dog is beyond cute!!!

One of my BMs (my closest cousin) offered to help me a couple of times (which I was thankful for) but I didn't take her up on her offers of help. I knew exactly what I wanted and had the time to do it (we had a 21 month engagement so it really wasn't an issue).

I have always been interested in the details of weddings and once I became an adult I have offered help with almost every wedding I have been invited to. My BM (the one that offered help for my wedding) didn't take physical assistant but she did use some of my ideas (her favors were CDs of music she and her husband liked as well as their first dance song and other "important" songs during the reception, she didn't want table numbers so I suggested she chose places she and her husband enjoyed visiting together and a few other things), I ended up planning another cousin's honeymoon (I worked at a hotel at the time and was able to get discounts for hotels for her). I had 2 friends get married between when I started planning my wedding and actually getting married. For one of the brides, I did her bouquets (DIY'ed with silk flowers), the flower girl basket, the wedding cake (I ordered and paid for the cake as a gift), I provided the music and I did the favors (as well as helped decoration for the ceremony and reception). For the other bride, I helped her find her vendors (including the reception venue, the limo, the photographer and the DJ), went with her to pick out her dress, helped her choose the favors and decorated the box the favors were in. I ran her rehearsal and helped line everyone up for the reception entrances (pretty much I was her wedding planner without having the "job" of wedding planner).

I always say no because... I don't like owing anybody anything! I'm a step away from a recluse, though, so just ignore me.

I've only taken offers from our parents and FH's grandparents (who were insistent on paying specifically for our invitations). We were comfortable with both because they blank cash amounts and hosting of the RD and morning after brunch. Other than that, we're just going through vendors.

I did find out that FMIL's friend tried to offer us money through her. Luckily, FMIL nipped that in the bud and didn't even pass on the message. That would've been weird.

FH and I don't want anyone's help because we don't want anyone's input.

My mom has helped with lots of things. FHs grandmother wants to help and is super crafty. She helped me DIY table runners and is currently working on a cupcake stand. FHs aunt is also helping me with a DIY as she is a big scrapbooking person. FHs cousin (a bm) has also offered to help and I will probably take her up on it if I find I need help assembling things closer to the date. If anyone doesn't want to help though, I plan to do it on my own.

I went to tour a venue with FH, a good friend, and her friend. It was nice to have another opinion there who wasn't getting emotional and swept up in the romance lol, she was able to come up with questions and raise concerns I hadn't thought about (her friend didn't say much because she felt awkward about doing so). If you still have these vendors left, maybe that's something? Mostly it's been Mom, FH, Dad, and myself on everything.

It's okay to say no, and it's okay to accept help when offered. ETA: Just saw your wedding date, you probably have most of your vendors. So it's totally fine to say there's not much left.

I ask my mom and my MOH for opinions on lots of things, doesn't take up much of their time but they feel involved. Like my mom was over last night and I asked for help picking ice cream flavors for the dessert bar.

I actually picked up the marriage license for a friend of mine. They had to apply in person, but didn't have to pick it up (they had a waiting period), and I really did want to help her out.