When people offer to help......

They always offered and I finally took them up on it to help finish a couple of things the week of the wedding. But I paced myself and was able to do 98% of it myself.

I guess maybe more little things will come up later (or really at this point..... Sooner!). Like I said my MOH came dress shopping twice with me and helped pick out cake and really that's the fun stuff! I guess maybe they'll see when they're the brides I just know when I offered help and was never given anything I felt bad that the bride had done everything herself when I offered. If that makes sense?

@Carly thanx! I love the crap out of him and spoil him so much lol

I totally agree!! My MOH has offered like 85 times, I feel bad that I haven't given her anything. We are going to have a DIY night to get some last minute projects done. I COULD easily do it myself, but I figure it's a good time to hang out and she really want to, so

I've had bridesmaids (who have already been married) take a look at my to do lists and such to see if I'm missing anything. My MoH and sister asked what help I need. I pretty much tell her she can just plan the Bachlorette (which she volunteered to organise. And will occasional ask opinions on things (shoes, save the dates, etc) but in terms of her doing stuff on her own to help out I don't really have anything.

FMIL keeps offering and I just say thanks, I'm ok right now! It's not that I don't think I'm going to need help, but I don't really want opinions during this stage in the game. I have my vision & I'm gonna roll with it. I'm sure later down the road there are things that I'll be like "hell yeah, come help me put together 384842 centerpieces" but for now, I'm good. She did buy me about 200 dollars worth of wedding books from Barnes & noble.. Sweet and all but she could have just given me cash so I could have bought something for the actual wedding. She means well, but she does have opinions on things so for now I'm keeping it pretty hush hush.

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Asking for help can be awesome. Assign tasks with good direction to get what you want. Have them price out hotels for your guests, address invitation, search for shoe options, etc. everything I have assigned was to help me do the ground work. But, be prepared for a lot of questions. About the task and everything else. It can be super helpful though! The people you gathered are there to support you, so let them!

I've taken offers for help when it comes to giving opinions. I have trouble making decisions, and my BMs are so sweet and wonderful and have offered to come with when looking for decoration ideas, flowers, suits for the GMs, etc.. I also have a BM with amazing handwriting who offered to write out names on my placecards for me! I'm learning to let go of little tasks if people offer It's hard because you know exactly what you want, but it is ok to let people help if they offer.

Im SO not a detail oriented person. Haha. My FH and I have done everything ourselves so far. But I'm sure we will take people up on their offers as we get closer.

My BMs keep asking if I need help but honestly I have a vision of what I want and I'm not sure they could do it without offering too many opinions. Although I did agree to have a friend do all the flower arrangements

I asked my BMs for help picking out my save the dates. I have them 4 options and said vote for your favorite! However, I am an idiot for doing this. I already had the one I wanted. And none of them voted for it. So I got so defensive and now I feel like they all hate my save the date...

So yeah, I'm basically done asking for opinions. I have a very clear vision and I know I have good taste.

Even though they want to help, it will create more of a headache for you because you will be trying to please everyone. I say just tell them all that you've got it covered, thanks!

I had a friend help me stuff and address invitations, and I always use her to roll ideas off of. I only have one BM that is local, and whenever she asks how to help, I tell her to come shopping with me (for jewelry, shoes or whatever) or just have a drink with me to relax! That's part of wedding planning in my book!

There is only one person I trust to truly help me and that is my best friend and MOH. She and I have been planning our weddings since we were in high school. I was more of the wedding "stuff" admirer (dresses, cakes, decor) and she was the etiquette researcher and master of all things "traditional". So once I get closer to planning the details, she will be the only person to help me (besides my fiancé) because she knows me so well, she's honest but kind. I think it's really about knowing and trusting the people who offer to help. I know other people will offer but I will tell them it's under control (even if it's actually a hot mess) and be on the phone with her five minutes later in a panic.

My bridesmaids actually haven't offered to help, but they both have demanding careers and my MOH (my sister) lives across the country. I don't think I would know what to have them do if they did offer. However, they're both always good for a quick opinion on anything I'm considering or a quick vent about the planning process. That's really really helpful. They've both been in more weddings than I have, so I think they've figure out just the right amount of support.

However, I have family members that have jumped right in with the offers. If people just generally offered to help I don't think I would know what to ask them to do, but I've got people coming with specific offerings of how they are willing to help.

My aunt is going to do all my flowers (she has training in this area). I don't care that much about flowers, but I know whatever she does will be way cooler than what I would've come up with. My cousin offered to do my hair, she's a hairdresser (I just want a blow out so I accepted, I wouldn't have made her do a complicated up-do). One FMIL has insisted on paying for invitations, and the other has a sister that offered to do our cake. Not sure if I'll be accepting the cake offer, but if she still wants to do it when we get closer I guess I will. All I care about is that it tastes good, and she's a professional baker so I think it might work out.

I have the same feelings about it. A lot of people have offered up to help, but I don't have anything they could possibly do. It's not like they can make a decision on what limo to go with or the shoes I am going to wear or jewelry I need to buy online. I did have my mom start working on hotel welcome bags, however. She is also doing a small memorial table for our fathers, but I'm also a control freak and told her "buy nothing without my approval first please."

I feel you, I really do not want anyone paying anything for me or giving me their 2 cents on any of my ideas. I know what I like, I know what I want & I can afford to pay for it...so I just told my party to make sure they have their outfits & make sure they are on time to all the events. I am a bit controlling but I know that I’ll get annoyed with the “input” so I rather not deal with it.

One of my MOH made my cardbox, the other MOH blinged out my slippers for the reception. I really didn't let them do anything because I had a vision. Just my Fiancé and I did 95% of the work.