When to send invites!?

You wouldn’t need to send shower invites that early anyway. I wouldn’t send shower invite before the actual wedding invite either

View Quoted Comment Ok I just have no clue about this sort of stuff lol how soon before the shower do those invites go out? 2 weeks ish?

View Quoted Comment It’s really funny cause I actually posted a question on here about that ahah I’m hosting a shower for my bff and I didn’t know how far in advance. People said 1-1.5 months ahead of the date.
But since you mentioned your wedding guests are all out of state, you could send it at the same time when you send your wedding invites if you feel your shower guests need extra time to accommodate travel and what not? But if they’re local then a month seems plenty for shower invites

View Quoted Comment Yea my only thing is that even if we sent them the end of June or first week of July and the weddinh invites go first... that’s 12 weeks from the wedding Is that ok?

Wedding invitations are typically send 8 weeks before your wedding.

View Quoted Comment Ugh by those standards there’s no way the shower invites can be sent second then because the date of the shower is exactly 8 weeks from our day

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I believe our shower invites were sent about 1-1.5 months before our shower. I'm not positive because I didn't send them, but I received one, so that timeline sounds right. Honestly, I would worry more about the timeline of my wedding invitations than my shower invitations. Sending wedding invites too early will cause people to forget about them, then you will be chasing down RSVP's. Like you said, everyone receiving a shower invite received a STD, so I don't see a problem sending the shower invites beforehand.

I'd send your invites 2-3 months out, regardless of when shower invites go out.

My shower is going to be on June 6th 2020; we are going to be sending our invites out in June for the wedding. So my guests are going to be receiving my shower invites first because of the shower date be earlier than most. But it was the only date that worked for my family due to vacations that my parents go on and my FFIL's are out of state for 2 weeks of July. I don't see a problem with them getting my shower invites first, since everyone did get a STD too.

It's completely fine for bridal shower invites to go out before wedding invites.

View Quoted Comment Ok thanks!!

I honestly didn't know this was a thing. My bridesmaids hosted my shower and I have no clue when they sent invites out, but it was definitely before the invites for the wedding went out. My shower was in January, my wedding is in May. There's no way I could have sent invitations out before that. We sent save the dates in Nov/Dec because, like you, have a lot of out of state guests... so it's not like people didn't know we were getting married. I just sent out my invite for the wedding last weekend. Invitation timelines are so confusing to me. There's just way too much info out there! It took me forever to decide when to send them, how much time to give for RSVPs, etc. I say do whatever you want and whatever works for best you

I honestly don't think it matters what comes first - people got your STD's so they know there's a wedding coming up; the shower invite won't be a surprise.


Because I'm getting married in March & I didn't want ppl to travel in inclement weather I had my shower in November. So my shower invites went out a few months before my actual wedding invites.
Do what works for you - the rules of what should & shouldn't be done are ancient! We're in the year 2020!!!!!
Hope this helps!

Wedding invites should go out 6-8 weeks prior for a local wedding and 8-12 weeks prior for a DW.