Where are you going to live after your wedding?

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The reason our situation is different than most people in our generation is because my FH lived with his parents until he bought the house so most of our time dating was spent with him still living with them in order to save all of his income for it. Otherwise, I would 100% be on board for renting and saving what we could simply because I've always wanted a yard to be able to garden. My sister and her husband have been renting since they got married and it's been absolutely fantastic for them No kids there yet but that's because she isn't ready as opposed to being in a rental.

FH and I currently live together in a 1 bed/ 1 bath apartment. We were thinking about a 2 bedroom when we were looking, but with paying for a wedding, student loans, and a lot being up in the air at the time, it just wasn't feasible. We'll probably renew our lease for another year since it's up right before the wedding and I don't want to have all the stress that comes with a move (or pay for everything that entails) right before the wedding. Maybe around our first anniversary we'll be in a better place financially to look into a house, but the market would need to at least start turning around first.

Love the comment about asking your parents to foot the bill for the down payment if they're so adamant about you needing a house 😂 The housing market is nuts right now, and the cost for everything has skyrocketed since prior generations were starting out. It's not the same.

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I just screen-shot and saved what you wrote! You get it! This generation is so different than our parents generation. Our apartment is affordable, and hopefully we’ll be able to save so we can afford a home one day! We’ve had to cut back on our wedding and still working on how we can cut down our guest-list too lol (my fiancé has such a large family!) I agree with you- cheaper living for more comfortable decisions/situations later. We should have a money saving group forum similar to Wedding Wire lol. And thank you for your support!! ♥️ I appreciate you ♥️

View Quoted Comment My fiancé and I have a one bed /one bath apartment too. And I guess we’ll just have to deal when we start growing our family. And hopefully in a couple years after getting married we’ll be able to look at homes. And yeah lol. My parents wouldn’t foot a bill for any living. Our generation is so different from our parents.

My husband and I live in a one-bed/ one bath Co-Op in NYC. We have no interest in a house as we like high-rise living. Many real adults and whole families are content with owning or even renting apartments in NY. We all choose what is best for us, so I am glad you are sticking to your life plan. Eventually, I'd like to have a separate bathroom from my husband.

View Quoted Comment I know that’s the way of living in New York! I’m in California. Usually people have houses here with yards and a pool. And I grew up like that. But with this current economy, it’s like forcing everyone in my generation to live in apartments than houses! But yeah, I do not mind not tending to a yard at the moment either lol. I have to go to RN school next year! I love your end comment hahaha. And thanks so much! ♥️

My fiancé and I already live together but we’ll be buying an RV right before and traveling while working so we’ll be on the road! House one day. We’re from NY but thinking trying to settle in Canada one day if we can make it happen 🤔

View Quoted Comment Omg that will be so exciting!!! I’ve thought about getting an RV and just perching it at the beach or something ha. It seems like it’s a lot of work and maintenance! Do you know about how to run an RV or have you been learning about it?

View Quoted Comment Honestly I’m not an expert lol. We’ve been wanting this for over a year. We’ve been saving as we’ll be getting a 40 foot trailer to accommodate space for my business and a desk for him. Wishing he had a more flexible work schedule (maybe one day) but for now we’re planning to travel the country and through Canada. A little slower than we’d like because of his job but what can you do 🤷🏻‍♀️ No kids for a few years so no rush.


Honestly I’ve just joined some groups on Facebook, subscribed to some free online magazines I get monthly and I watch a family on YouTube that travels plus some of my own research. I occasionally sign up for free virtual summits or ones that are very cheap to join. I’ve honestly been researching the hell out of this but I know it’ll be nothing compared to actually doing it! So right before our wedding in October our lease is up so we will be moving out of our apartment and moving into our trailer with our two cats 🥰

FH and I are moving into his house when we get married. The only reason we have it is because it was his great grandmother’s house and his grandmother sold it to him for a good price after she passed away. But owning a house comes with pros and cons and everyone has their own path! The housing market is crazy here. Yes we have a house but we also will have to drive almost an hour to work and back every day. The house still needs a lot of work but we’ve been too caught up in wedding stuff to give it our undivided attention. I probably won’t have a kitchen for a few months after moving in which will be rough because I cook a ton. All that to say, our situation is a little unusual since family sold it to him right before the prices skyrocketed. We are tremendously blessed to have it! But seriously … enjoy getting used to marriage in a place where if something breaks it’s not your responsibility 😂 You’ll save up for a house in your own time, don’t let your parents get you down!

View Quoted Comment That’s so cool! That’s great you’ve been heavily learning about it! It seems like it’s a lot of maintenance, but you get to be on the road! And that is so exciting! And you and your fiancé have stay-at-home/flexible jobs where you can do that! So cool! And yeah, that’s great you’re doing this before having kids! I know there are people who do it with babies and kids. And that’s cool too. But it’s good you learn the ropes of the RV living before you have them! Ahhh I’m so excited for you!

View Quoted Comment I mean, the fact that his family is able to sell the house to your fiancé and your fiancé is rich enough to buy your house is amazing. I have a family home that I so desperately want to buy, and have been trying for years, and my dad will not do it. Like, I’ve shown that can take care of my parents and their home and I’ve gotten a career, and saving money. But no matter what, it’s like he won’t sell my childhood home to me. And my fiancé is so broke he can’t even afford a house. And this house is a fixer-upper too. I’ve offered to take care of the house until he sells it. I’ve offered to pay rent even. Nope. You are so lucky your family just sells/gives it to your fiancé. One hour drive to work isn’t a big deal. When I’m finally done with my RN program, we plan on moving 2 hours away from my fiancé’s work. And he’s ok to commute.

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Best wishes! I would focus on your RN program and planning your joint life together. Keep in mind, generational wealth often enables early career individuals to afford down payments, and it sounds like that's not what your parents are offering. I'd take their criticisms with a grain of salt particularly if they're not active in today's market. They can dream all they want, but it's your dreams that matter.

We live in the house my husband inherited when his mom passed away. When I married my first husband, we lived in an apartment and continued to do so after our daughter was born. We had student debt and he was gone a lot for the national guard so owning didn't really make sense for our situation.

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry your dad won’t sell you the family home, that’s unfortunate! Maybe he’ll cave in one day! His family didn’t give it to my fiancé, they sold it. Yes we are extremely blessed but everyone goes down their own path. For us, it’s starting out with a house and a lot of debt because FH also had to take out a loan to fix up the house on top of the actual house loan. 🤪

View Quoted Comment Yeah it’s definitely not the easiest style of living or the most glamorous 😅 but traveling is pretty ingrained in me because of my family and my fiancé and I love road trips and traveling together. We love spontaneity. So it’ll be exciting 🥰 a lot of work to get there but worth it!

In the first year of our marriage, we lived with his parents and that year was terrible, we always had arguments, so in the second year we rented a small cheap house, it was so important to have our own space

Well we were supposed to buy a house in 2020 but then Covid hit and shortly after we discovered that we were expecting so we pushed it back to 2021...then we got engaged and the wedding is this year, which took over our budgets (planning, saving, etc.) so now we are looking at next summr after the dust settles from wedding planning. However, the market is really terrible for buyers right now (We live in Los Angeles) so we will most likely have our monies ready for when things get better. In the meantime, we'll be staying in the duplex that he owns.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow. So you’re able to afford renting a house.

View Quoted Comment We have an apartment in Los Angeles too! Both of us are still working on our careers. But may wait til things get better as well to buy a house.