Where have you registered for your bridal shower?

MrsO- thank you I will, I just find it strange that some people have "never seen or heard of this before" and cant grasp the concept I find this funny when we are in a day and age where there are a lot more of non-traditional weddings happening ALL the time. I'm sorry but that's just a little simple minded to me.

It's not simple minded. Having the same bridal shower and wedding registry makes "NO sense to you," and registering for personal items like makeup makes no sense to me.

It's clearly a regional/cultural thing. I'm not necessarily knocking it if that is typical for your social circle. I was just initially surprised by it. Clearly I'm not the only only who finds this view of bridal showers a little odd. To each their own.

I do find it strange to register for personal things I think you should buy your own and the registries are getting a little crazy

MrsO- it's not a regional or cultural thing and its not just in my social circle, google any etiquette guide on a bridal shower and most say its how you want it to be. Themed or whatever it's your wedding.

Edit: some more traditional etiquette guides say that it's for the couple...so yes there are many different views on it. So it's not bizarre, or any of what you all said about mine. It's your opinions.

@krystal- that's why I posted this to see if sephora was a little too much. Thanks

@MrsO I think you have expressed exactly what the rest of us have been trying to say! Well, the majority of us. I'd like to add that the bridal shower, in my family and social circle, is definitely not a party for the bride to get new items to please her FH. Gross. I'm sorry that is ridiculous and makes me uncomfortable to even think about it that way. It's a showering of gifts for the couple to receive based on the 2 starting a new life together, mainly household items.

This is just a clash of cultures or social norms. To each their own.

I give up!

I've honestly seen both types of showers, which is why I wondered if it was a regional thing. I don't see anything wrong with either kind of shower, as long as all of the guests know what to expect. In any case, hope you have a great time at yours, Mrs. B!

Yeah Id do some research... You dont wanna look greedy by registering for a bunch of personal stuff... personally I wouldn't be thrilled to go to that shower... it is supposed to be for the couple, even though its a brides party.. we registered at BBB and Amazon.com... for house stuff

Target, Kohl's, and Amazon, however -- Target deleted my registry 2 times in one month, my first shower is next Saturday and I had to re-register for everything!

I just started my registry on Etsy.com for personal things that I would want for me!!

That's good Aleisha, I hope u get everything u want! Apparently no one else thinks that's how bridal showers work if u want them too.

FutureMrs.B, I don't think anyone means to insult you when they say your bridal shower style is "bizarre" to them. It's just not the way they're familiar with, which is perfectly fine, as many others have said. As long as you, your guests, and your FH are happy with the way you have it planned, go for it!

Please don't call people who disagree with you or just aren't familiar with your bridal shower style "simple-minded" though. That's kinda unnecessarily mean...

I've never heard of a separate registry for showers, that seems odd to me. We (FH and I) are beginning our lives together, so we register for things we need for our home. I've never attended a bridal shower that included gifts specifically for just the bride - they typically included gifts for the couple and their home.

I personally feel that it's creepy, for lack of a better word, for my family and friends to purchase lingerie for me. "Hey honey, should I wear the red from my grandma, or the purple from your mom? ;p" Yuck...

If this is the norm and therefore something acceptable in your social circle, then great! Have fun! However, I agree with @Amy that just because someone's opinion and ideas aren't the same as yours doesn't mean they are simple-minded or that you should call them that. No one said anything demeaning to you, so let's all be open minded. You asked for opinions and people gave theirs.

I never called anyone simple minded specifically all I said is the fact that no one has EVER heard of this kind of shower and by saying that the way I will do mine is strange and bizarre is demeaning and a simple minded way of thinking.

And I guess I'm not the ONLY one doing it this way but its still strange and bizarre and never heard of lol

And also, the VS registry would be for my close girlfriends, not grandmas. Seriously ladies come on!!!!

@FutureMrs. B, You said a few times that you've always "pictured" showers the way you describe -- as being for showering the bride with gifts aimed at her (not household items or bride/groom gifts). Does this mean you've envisioned it this way, or have you also been to these sorts of showers?

I didn't even know you could register at Victoria Secret or Sephora! Learn something new everyday...but anywho...I registered at Bed Bath and Beyond and Macy's.

Oh, and I think it's ok to register at those places for your bachelorette party. But, I'm not too sure about registering for it for a non-themed bridal shower. But, what do I know. I don't have much wedding experience.

So your grandmothers will buy you makeup?

I really didn't mean any of my comments personally, but rather as general information and observations. Truly, I've never seen or heard of anything like this. If this is the norm with your circle then obviously go for it. I, however, would never buy a bride such a personal gift for a bridal shower. Those gifts are reserved for your birthday or things you buy yourself. Lingerie shower, different story.

^^What she and @Mrs. O said...but this is your shower and your family and friends so...do you boo boo.

Its socially acceptable in my circle and my bridal shower is going to be kitchen and lingerie themed because thats what we would like as a couple.. Personally the gifts at beachelorette parties tend to be a bit more racy where i come from and people may say eww gross i would never feel comfortable but it doesnt bother me everyone has sex so why not talk about it and if my friends want to buy me "sex enhancing" gifts ifor the bachelorette party m not going to be embarassed.. but i feel that linens and household items are for the wedding that things for the kitchen and lingerie are for the bridal shower as those items are mostly for the bride

@esposa- I've never been to any kind of bridal shower, I've been invited a few times but had to work or something. But I have done my research on them and what I've read on bridal shower etiquette books is that you can do it how ever the heck u want to!

@rayray- no, the sephora would be for close girlfriends as well.

Not to get real specific but my grandma is dead so can we stop with the grandma thing, thanks.