Where to have the wedding? He's from India, i am from Norway.

Hi Caro!

In this situation, I would tell my fiancé: " let's have 2 weddings" . If it means no extravagant,lavish, fairytale-like wedding, so be it.

Don't forget that a marriage is more important than a wedding.

Having 2 'simple' weddings in front of all family members is better, in my humble opinion, than 1 extravagant but some family can't be there.

Especially since you and your fiancé can afford 2 simple weddings and not all family members can afford a destination wedding in India or in Norway.

In fact, to be honest: I'm not the type of girl who wants a dream, fancy wedding and who has been dreaming of it since I was born so my opinion is biased... My fiance and I even considered the idea of eloping.

If you couldn't afford 2 weddings it would have been another story, though.

Good luck!

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Thank you so much for advice! It really helps to put things in perspective. I've always wanted a lavish wedding, but I think including all family is the most important thing. It is a celebration of family and therefore all family should be included. I don't think neither me or my fiancé would be able to make such a choice to only have one wedding and where/who. Again, thank you!

It sounds like you and 3/4 of family are in Norway, so it seems most logical to have the wedding there. I would plan your wedding with a combination of western and Indian traditions. If you are unable to find a way to get his other family members to Norway, set it up so they can watch virtually!

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Technically 3/4 of our family lives in Norway, but realistically when thought in quantity, thats more than half of our family since his Indian family is so big and our Norwegian ones so small. Having a virtual wedding might be difficult because of the time zones - but it could work. Also, I think it'd make more sense to have a combined Western/Indian wedding if more Indians were present than just his father. The traditions and cultures are very different also, so it's going to be a challenge combining them. But we will think about this and discuss it further. Thank you so much for your inputs nonetheless! We appreciate it.

Hmmm... you mention that you cannot afford to fly his entire Indian family to Norway. Would you be able to help fly the ones he is closest to to Norway, such as his grandparents? Since a live virtual wedding would be difficult because of time zones, it could be recorded and shown at a time more convenient for those in India. Another option would be traveling to India for your honeymoon or for an anniversary trip to either do a vow renewal or celebration there, too!

If you can afford to have two, then I'd do that!

I'm not big on having things being super grand and extravagant, so that's a reason why I would suggest having 2 more toned down weddings. That way both sides of the family will be able to attend and celebrate you both, plus you get the western wedding AND the Indian wedding that you both want!