I've asked this before but the situation has gotten so much worse. Long story, sorry. Our divorced parents HATE each other. Like ready to draw weapons kind of loathing. My Husband's parents have been divorced 33 years and they have not been in the same room since. His mom is already HOT at the idea that his dad will be there. His dad honestly is not very loving and abandoned my husband and his brother for 15 years to start a new family that he and his new wife significantly favor (it's super uncomfortable for even my FIL's extended family and thank the lord they stand up for my hubby).
With all that - my parents divorced 3 years ago after 28 years of marriage for my mom to be with my Dad's best friend. To say my dad is mad is a gross understatement. Both sides of my family are strongly against each other and I canceled all the potential pre-wedding events (bridal shower, etc) before COVID even started to avoid drama.
Additionally, we recently took guardianship of our niece whose bio mom and dad (hubby's brother) will be in attendance. This has created some touchy feelings around them being there with both his mom and my mom (as it's been horribly stressful on me).
SO! Where in the heck do I seat these people? We have 11 round "family" tables for them, our grandparents, my aunts and uncles (my family side attending is very small), and our bridal party. We discussed moving one or more to some of the "extended family and friends" tables and that was a mistake to bring up to our parents. As it was they all wanted to be in the front 3 tables. sigh. Has anyone had any experience with this? Should I just hire security and make them figure it out? We've asked them all to be respectful and they said they would but with alcohol flowing, I would like to reduce the temptation to act out as much as possible.