Where will you live?

We’ve been renting a home together for years before even getting engaged haha We’ve just been going with the flow of what we feel ready for. We’re saving for our wedding right now and then we’ll start looking to buy a home.

Lived in an apartment for two years, then bought a home together after. Some would advise against buying a home before you're married but we creating a contract while we were dating to make sure if anything happened it would go smoothly. I would live with someone before being married though!

Now, the plan is to stay in our home after we're married!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing Veronica, yes it is important for sure.

View Quoted Comment Very interesting and responsible that yall created a contract, thanks for sharing Taylor and congrats to you two!

DH still lived with his parents in Manhattan when we met, and I had 3 roommates.

Eventually, with family help, I bought a small condo right outside of NYC, while DH moved in with 3 roommates IN NYC. It's amazing how long-distance a subway ride can make you.

He moved in with me (...I made a NYC boy move to NJ, and I will always consider that a win... but I've conceded we'll move to Manhattan if we can ever afford it) after we'd dated about 4 years. We didn't get engaged for another 2 1/2 years after that.

But I'm older than him, so our situations were a bit different.

We are living apart currently mostly due to job situations but it's less than an hour and we travel back and forth without issues at least once a week.


Leading up to the wedding my mom has to sell her house due to mobility disability issues and is unable to live on her own and sometimes needs help. We have an understanding she has to live with us until she passes however long that may be. We will have a 3 bedroom apartment so his little one from his previous marriage can have a room to stay in when she's visiting. Some would say that's not the best but the anxiety from knowing my mom is on her own and could need help it's our choice to live this way. As long as the choice is made together it works.

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Thanks for sharing Bianni, wishing the two of you the best on the search!

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Yes Hannah, everyone's story is indeed unique and I think the problem always starts with trying to fit your story into someone else's or what others think the perfect situation is. This forum has already helped me see how different everyone's story is and how my story can be just as much of an inspiration to someone down the line. Thank you for sharing!

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Wow Elizabeth, I can imagine the ups and downs that come with being fresh out of college + job hunts + city move. Thanks for sharing a portion of your story with us.

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Thank you for sharing your story Tiger, yes, we definitely will be living together once married.

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Thank you so much for sharing Amanda, communication is so important and yes, I'm learning daily that hardly anyone has it all figured out.

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Thank you so much for sharing Cassidy.

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Nice, thank you for sharing Jai. Wishing you both a blessed journey!

View Quoted Comment You're welcome and thank you!

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Thanks for sharing Michelle!

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LOL Asia, I know how it feels to get tired at the thought but like many others have said in this discussion, keep the communication open and everyone's story is unique. I'm sure it will turn out well in the end and all these hurdles will make for a stronger and more intimate relationship. That's my hope for you two!

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Thanks for sharing Allie, very interesting story and proof that even when it's all planned out, it doesn't always turn out just as we plan.

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Thank you for sharing and thank you for this reminder {"There is nothing wrong with starting small and simple"}

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Thank you Anais, vey true indeed.

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Thank you for sharing, Yes I agree to having an idea of what we want our future to look like. Wish you and yours the best during these challenges!