Where's my invitation at?

I vote the quick chop to the throat

Could say something like: Due to budget we can't invite everyone we would like, or blame it on a small venue.

One of my friends tried to guilt there way into an invite. I just told him straight up that I couldn't accomodate his family on my budget! The guest list caps out at 200!

Sometimes I think it's just people having to say something. it's like a weird response...although I don't do it so maybe it's just socially inept people who can't just be.

No one has said that to me...but I have had people already think they are invited. so far i have just let them think it. When the time comes and they can't i will say sorry...

Ugh, how can people have the nerve to ask someone that. I never understood that!!!!! I would just let them know you are on a tight budget and unfortunately cannot have a wedding to invite 500 people!! Lol

Online? that's where you can order them haha

Simple. "I'm sorry, we really wish we could invite everyone!" and change the subject. Are you excited for the Bruins to win?

When we got engaged I was shocked by how many people said "I can't wait to see you in your wedding dress!" I hope you mean the pics because you sure as heck aren't invited! My reply has been, we're having a small wedding but thanks for your support/excitement/encouragement/money

Laudie - Right! Go ahead order a few! haha!!

Ya it sucks that so many people feel that they are entitled to an invitation.... well I got news for you... I'm not rich and can't afford a big wedding and there is no where to host one in my town sooo you cant go! I'm going to blame it on the venue and if they get all butt hurt I will give them them the throat chop! HA

I'm with you!! A punch in the throat!!

Our venue will only hold 100 ppl... I invited as many ppl possible and when my family ask me did you invite so and so 3rd or 4th cousin of who knows who... I just say my guest list had to end somewhere..

I've offered to help my friends with weddings that I was already invited too... you need help with signs? Things like that but never said anything like that! Until now I just laughed and walked away... kinda just as rude right? I've even gotten the oh cool now we need to plan your bachelorette party! I cant wait its going to be so fun... and they aren't even in the wedding. One girl told me, yours needs to be fun cuz mine wasn't I was prego and we just had dinner so yours we need to go all out..... WOAH! MINE NOT YOURS lol

In all seriousness, I find that when people ask, they are genuinely excited and not at all trying to be rude or presumptive.

For my first wedding, I had a number of people ask because they all had huge weddings and invited me. It made sense when they found out I only had 50 people and they were cool. I try not to give people too hard of a time on this one unless they are blatantly rude about it.

I know! I had family I haven't seen in 10+ years saying they're coming with no invite. I said no, and now there's talk of crashing it. I told them no again, so I hope they listen. I don't like when people get mad about kids not being invited either. Both of our mothers pretty much rolled their eyes when it was mentioned at the bridal shower because they want kids there. It's not their wedding.

I've had people say things too about wanting to be in it and things like that. The process has definitely shown me that I shouldn't be mad if my friends get married and don't invite me to theirs. I hope they do, but still I won't say anything to our friends about not getting the invite.

To answer the question though I usually just say we're having a small, intimate wedding. I had to say it to a friend who tried to bring an uninvited new boy toy.

Hahahaha Laudie! I've had people ask me. And all I say is "I wish I could invite everyone but because of our budget its just not possible"

I went to a wedding last summer of a college friend. A girl (who invited herself to myself and I nixed that immediatly) invited herself to that wedding as well and the bride couldn't say no. She told the person she could come ONLY if she was going to show because it was a very expensive wedding and she didn't want to pay for a meal if she wasn't going to show. $150 later the guest said it was too expensive to travel to the wedding (NY to Baltimore, where there are $20 bus tickets 10X day) and just didn't show.

Stephanie - I would have hunted her down and stole her checkbook....

@Shawndra - No gift, no text, no call - nothing before or after the wedding. I'd say it's unreal but I know the girl and the only unreal part is that she knows how to work a pencil

Why would you want to attend a wedding to which you weren't on the A or B list. I don't get asking for an invitation AT ALL lol

@Paris - Here's my question - if someone doesn't consider you close enough to want you there - why do you want to go? I don't get it. Free food? Free booze? Just to say you were there? It's not like this is a celebrity wedding and I can sell the story to the tabloids.