Which date would you like better

That's tough. I would rather be cooler than deal with heat so I would go with 4/4. 4/11 probably wouldn't be good because of Easter. 6/27 runs the risk of being too hot.

Sounds like April would be best to avoid overheating. If your guests make a big deal out of Easter that might not be the best choice, but that is all up to you and when you feel those closest to you would be more likely to comfortably attend.

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I kind of want to cry... I just imagined it was going to work out perfectly and i feel like we have to make a quick decision because they do not reserve a date until you submit the paperwork. And his parents are on vacation in France so we can't even ask them... Like what if they have plans for his mom's birthday!

April over June for sure!

Out of your choices I would prefer June, but I do like it warmer. This year has been a record summer in terms of heat.

Can you email his parents? Do you know the name of the hotel they are staying at? How long before they are back? Venues will put the pressure on to make the sale, but perhaps you have a day or two to think this through.

It's difficult to choose a date based on weather. Do you have other factors to consider like travel for guests or school, etc? Personally, I would pick June. Just because I like summer more. I would recommend talking to your VIPs and get their thoughts. Also, look at average rainfall for the month of April and June.

I would choose June

I would do 4/4, then 6/27, followed by 4/12.
Having a wedding the day before Easter would be hard for ppl - especially w/ little kids.
I live in PA, so I’m familiar with the weather patterns in the area.

I will see about email his parents. I think they are taking a river cruise and I have no idea about the details and I'm sure FH doesn't have any details either. 4/4 worries me just because its his mothers birthday 4/5. I will suggest we talk to his aunt today. She would know better if his parents have anything on 4/4 planned.

For the venue putting pressure- its not a "wedding venue" so the pressure is not the normal pressure to get you to sign something. It is a county park and the rules are they can not hold anything unless you submit the application and it is approved then you have 14 days to make payment or you loose your date. It is first come first serve on the application submission.

I do slightly worry about school. June 27 will most likely be one of the first weekends school is out around here and I worry the park would be busier then usual. Again its a public park so technically anyone out on a hike could walk right through our wedding- I don't really care about this, but it will be far less crowded in April then it will in June.

Maybe we will talk to a few people tonight and see what they say.

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Well, I doubt they have plans this far out for his mother's bday. We didn't even celebrate my birthday this year lol because we were closing on our house. So I wouldn't put too much weight on that.

I like the sound of 4/4/20 but I'm getting married in June next year so partial to the June 27th date. I like the idea of even numbers too again with 4/4/20. If you want a cooler wedding day I would stick with April over June!

Partial to the June 27th and as that’s my date! We are also in a barn with no AC, but they have giant ceiling fans and many big doors to open. We’re also not starting until 4:30, so if it is hot it’ll cool down quick after that. Just my thoughts! Good luck

Ugh! This is hard. We lived in NJ for 7 years and the weather can be SO unpredictable.... Our first summer, there were thunderstorms for 13 weekends in a row. Having moved there from CA, I remember asking a NJ cousin how people plan outdoor weddings there because it rains so much. She looked at me like I was crazy and said, "there are no outdoor weddings in NJ!" I know that's not true, but it will definitely be stressful. If the weather is bad (hot/cold/raining/etc.) can everything be inside the barn? When daughter was a baby her Christening was in early June and it was so hot and humid the frosting literally melted right off the cake when we were transporting it to the venue.... If the ceremony has to be outside, I'd be concerned it would be too cold for guests to sit outside in April, but potentially too hot to be outside in June. If it's an option for everything to be inside, then I guess I'd go with April. At least you'll be able to keep people dry and warm. But, a 90 degree without air conditioning is just going to be miserable for everyone, inside or out. Like others said, I'd pick April 4 over the day before Easter. Good luck!

If you want the ceremony outside, I'd be hesitant to do it if it was below 60 (unless it was a short ceremony & guests knew it was outside & you provided heat lamps and blankets). I'm more of a summer person and I like warm weather for outdoor weddings, so I'd pick 6/27. It also seems farthest away from your FMIL and FBIL birthday and Easter.

If go with June, especially if your plan is to stay after dark for fire pit and stuff. Sounds like April would get pretty cold.

We also had to navigate choosing our date around birthdays, memorial day, mother's day, and my sister's anniversary date. 63-75 degrees sounds like perfect weather to me, but then again I'm used to the heat of the South lol. Personally I would say June! I think it would also depend on the time of day you plan on having the wedding

June ! Based on the temperature

Definitely April over June with no AC

View Quoted Comment My thoughts too. Being too hot at a wedding is miserable for everyone.

This is tough, but I’d probably go with April 4th. At least you’ll have heat in the barn... the June date will be too hot with no AC. And the April 11th date is too close to Easter. But I will say, I’m not sure about the fire pit idea. Personally, I would not want to sit by a fire in a nice dress at a wedding and smell like smoke. Could you have gas heaters instead? Those give off heat and are pretty!