Who are you inviting to your small wedding?

We are shooting for 50-60 guests and invited immediate family, as well as aunts, uncles, 1st cousins, and some close friends. We had to draw the line at cousin’s kids, most of whom are adults. Between the two of us that would have been 15 extra people. Heard through the totally unnecessary grapevine that one cousin is pissed that she can’t bring her college aged daughter. Oh well! Everyone else seems to be fine with our plans, people understand trying to keep it small especially during COVID times.

You first decide on the number and you get to split 50:50 no questions asked, no compromise. Who gets to go? It's a matter or prioritization. Who are the most important people in your life that you're willing to have witnessed your intimate wedding? Who are most likely to attend?

For our wedding (19 guests not including us):
Two attendants each (our very best friends at the time), none had SOs, but they would have been invited if they had
Grandparents (only his - mine were all already dead)
Parents and step-parent
Siblings and step-siblings, plus their SOs

That's it. I had one "friend" who was pissed she wasn't invited, and her behavior about it made it clear to me that she wasn't really my friend. She not only outright refused to congratulate us or wish us well in our marriage, she continued for years after to intentionally snub us on our anniversaries - I would see her wish other friends happy anniversary, but never us - and then I found out that a whopping nine years later, she was telling everyone at our high school reunion (which I didn't attend) how I had the nerve not to invite her to my wedding (her actual words - "can you believe she had the nerve not to invite me.") She was not the only friend who didn't get invited, either - far from it. I had about twenty friends of a similar level of friendship who were not invited, and my husband had about a dozen friends who were closer to him than she was to me who also did not get invited. I no longer speak to this person, and over fifteen years later, I still feel perfectly justified in not inviting her. In fact, I find it incredibly offensive that she felt so entitled to a seat, and I'm baffled that I put up with her as long as I did afterward.

For our vow renewal (currently 32 guests):
Grandparent (only one remains now)
Parents and step-parent
Siblings and their SOs (step-siblings are not invited this time)
Our closest friends and their SOs. There aren't really "his friends" and "her friends" anymore. I don't really know how to explain the criteria here, because these people came into our lives from all walks and stages (college, weird hobbies like building robots, classic cars, work, old high school friends we reconnected with and became really close) - it's just the people who I can't imagine not inviting.
The only thing we might hear about is not inviting my husband's step-siblings. But they're all adults, he wants nothing to do with them, and they've been fighting with/attacking his parents since his grandmother died last year so honestly, they don't need to be there anyway.

We are having a wedding of 50-60 people. Generally we are including parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins, and friends. We are also inviting some of our parents friends just because we need to meet a minimum guest count of 50 people.

We decided on immediate family (which for us was parents, siblings/spouses of siblings, and grandparents). Other people (extended family or friends) may have been upset, but no one brought it up with us.