Who did you check in with before setting your wedding date?

Eek! We seem to be the minority, but FW and I didn't check with anyone. We knew exactly what day we wanted, and we planned everything from that jumping off point.

Both our families are fairly flexible though, FWs family doesn't celebrate Christmas on Christmas, but usually a week or so later when everyone can be in town together. And my family is really small, so our Christmas celebrations tend to reflect that. (We're getting married Christmas Eve).

I didn't even think to ask anyone! We just set it and announced it. Nobody brought up an issue over it.

Yep, we checked with immediate family first, because most of them have to fly in for it, so we wanted to make sure it worked for them.

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I think I fall *almost* in this category- we decided 13 months out that we were going to do it in Feb 2019 and mentioned it to people so everyone knew we were aiming for that month. We didn't really "check in" with the date though- my brother said his wife always takes a big international vacation with her mom in Feb but.... I wasn't re-working our date for an not-yet-planned vacation...

FH's best friend is scheduled for a deployment that was too long to work around (we can't afford a peak season wedding and it doesn't work for someone in the tourist business!) so though we hated to- we still went ahead with our plans.

So yeah, we just went ahead and booked.

We didn't ask anyone, but our date was not flexible. We knew we wanted this date no matter what, even if we eloped and had a separate reception. Thankfully we don't have to do that.

FH and I didn’t check with anyone either. A little over a week after we got engaged we picked a date that was perfect for us and announced it to our families the next day.

We checked with both sets of parents and my grandparents!

I checked with my sister. My birthday is Friday, hers is Sunday and we're getting married on Saturday. So I just wanted to make sure she was ok with spending her birthday weekend at the wedding!

We only checked with both sets of parents and siblings!

We only had two dates in 2017 we could actually get married. We checked with:

-Both sets of parents
-Both of my grandparents
-Both of our siblings and their SOs
-Our three best friends

Luckily they all chose August 18th (the other option was in February and I would have been in Meltdown Mode) otherwise we weren't getting married until 2021.

Only my sister bc the date we were considering with our venue is only a couple of days away from my nephew's first birthday. Otherwise I just kept other significant dates in our families in mind. I didn't have to ask bc I already know those dates.

No one. Picked a random day and booked it.

We checked in with immediate family and wedding party. We had some push to check in with extended family but that was way too many people to consider trying to please...

My FH told his mom that he checked the calendar to make sure it didn't fall on a Jewish holiday that takes place the week before (she wouldn't be available theb), but the two of us know that it was pure coincidence 😂 we booked it, then we checked who would be able to come

We asked my parents, his parents, and FSIL as well as some other important people.

We picked the open date in September and told everyone we picked the date 16 months in advance so we figured we were safe

Hm, it never occurred to me to check with family members before we decided on a date. It was a decision made between just FH and I. I have some out of town family that groaned at our Sunday wedding but it didn’t really bother us that much because it was what we wanted and decided on. If they come, then great, but if not, then they’ll be missed.

We also didn't check with anyway...told our parents what day we wanted...🙃

We checked with our parents and my cousin. We are getting married on cousin's b-day and checked to see that she was ok with it.

At first we didn’t. We had our date and booked our venue before telling everyone but then some of my vips were saying they would be out of town the week or weekend of my wedding so we moved it up to the week before and the venue was very accommodating.