Who did you check in with before setting your wedding date?

I didn't check in with anyone haha.

My fiancé is really concerned about how mom getting the time off from work. She’s a school nurse and generally doesn’t take or isn’t “allowed” PTO during the school year. I’ve been wanting a fall wedding for as long as I can remember and the venues were looking at all have dates for fall 2019 available, preferably November. Is it inconsiderate to NOT take that into consideration? In my opinion, I don’t see her school saying she can’t take time off for her sons wedding! If we booked a venue around her scheduled it would be in February or April, when either flights are going to be outrageous (everyone is flying to Nashville from the Boston area) and risking the winter weather or families more than likely will be planning vacations as this is when we have winter and spring breaks. Should I just say screw it and pick a date I want? Obviously I want to include his mom and she’s going to be a part of the wedding. I’m just a little stressed thinking about it, any advice would be great!

I asked a couple of people. I had to check to make sure that my cousin would be out of school. Other than that, my mom didn't care what date we chose.

No one!

We found a venue we liked, it had our super awesome date open, and we went with it!

My dad was the only one who had a condition- Not during hunting season LOL! Other than that, we didn't really feel the need to check in with anyone.

We didn't exactly "check in" with anyone but we did take certain guests into consideration when picking a date. For example, we wanted a summer wedding so my cousin from Arizona (we live in NJ) can come. He's a teacher and he typically comes to NJ for a few weeks every summer and he adjusts them to be around for family events. The summer also makes it more likely that other family members from out of state will come because they won't have to worry about school schedules. Also, I asked my MOH (before she knew she was MOH) when her sister's wedding would be. I wanted to make sure that we didn't plan too close to her sister's because her wedding is a destination wedding.

I didn't check with anyone. Our families also understand that if we were to check with anyone then it would be drama from the get go because no one would be happy with a date we picked. So we picked the day and we moved it once because of the World Cup and where we were having it not because of anyone wanting it moved.

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Honestly, our closest family members. It's a destination wedding regardless, but we wanted our closest family members to be okay with that date prior to finalizing it.

My fiancé and I didn’t discuss the date with anyone. We knew the time of year we wanted and that we wanted a small morning/early wedding on a Sunday, so we chose Veterans Day weekend. This ensured that guests would be done with the event by dinner time and that most would have off the next day. We felt whomever could make it would be the important people there.

Because we gave a June wedding, checked with family that has children graduating.

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My best friend is a school nurse and has been for almost 20 years. She gets absolutely NO PTO during the school year. They did make an exception when her mother was dying but that is truly it. Both of her daughters took her job into account when planning their weddings.

This is his mom you are talking about. Are you really going to put her in that position? Your question was is it really inconsiderate. Yes it is.

My fiancé and I decided on a month and saw what days the venue had available nobody needed to input their opinion.

Before we even thought about dates my mom demanded that we not get married between April and September since she only works those months(it's a plant nursery). Guess who wasn't invited back to work there this year. So we chose Oct to work around her and now it would have been a non issue. I would have preferred to do it when school isn't in session so my son wouldn't miss 4 days of school but we sent out the invites and booked the venue before she found out she isn't working there anymore.

I also had my friend request that I move it up or down a week to accommodate another friend. I knew the friend who supposedly had another commitment on our date wouldn't have been able to come anyways since her and her husband have 5 kids and wouldn't be able to leave them with anyone for a few days and they don't have the money to travel. We kept our date since I knew my friend wouldn't be able to make it. Turned out my friends commitment is 2 weeks before the date we chose. So I ended up sending an invite and she's one of the only ones who hasn't RSVP'd

Nobody. We choose a date and ran with it.

Yes! Picking the date was so hard because of our VIPs. I originally wanted fall but was nervous fall 2018 would be too soon to plan a wedding ( it wasn't after all, I should have stuck with it from the beginning). With fall out of the question, and I absolutely did not want to get married in the summer heat, we were looking at spring or winter. Winter got thrown out the window because most of our OOT guest would be coming from up North and the thought of them potentially getting stuck in the snow stressed me. My mother is an accounting manager and the first two weekends of any month are horrible for her. The last weekend in April was out because it is the NFL draft and my FBIL is a scout. So that is how we ended up with out date of the third weekend in April.

We did not check in with anyone. The date was based on when my father would have the funds he wanted to contribute, what days were available that month, and then which Friday I wasn't going to have my time of the month

We didn't check with anyone. We figured whoever can make, will make it. It's about us anyway!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your thoughtful input. I’ll be sure to not put her in “That position.”

No ..as our wedding isn't for another 2 1/2yrs.

We didn't check with anyone. We looked at all the dates available around the time that we were interested in and decided on the date ourselves.

We did ask a couple (who are friends of fiance) that got engaged a few days after us what their date was. We had our date and venue already picked out but I thought checking in with them was the courteous thing to do. They are getting married pretty much exactly a year before we are.

I also spoke with my brother who is in the military because him being able to be there is important to me.