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Who do we tip the day of??

Sarah, on September 17, 2020 at 2:08 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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Ok I have a few questions...So I just learned that we are supposed to tip vendors at our wedding. I had no idea! We made sure that we included it with the caterer because we did NOT want to have to deal with that stuff on our wedding day. So my question is, what is the appropriate amount to tip? Is it like at a restaurant and you do 20%? If so that will be a huge amount that we did not initially expect. Or do you do a certain dollar amount? What is appropriate? We do not want to under tip. If this is customary then I want to do what is right. We have a photographer, videographer, and DJ that we would be needing to tip. Also, I’m wondering if we need to tip our venue? The woman that owns it includes day of coordination in her rate. So she has been talking to our vendors and coordinating things with them so I don’t have to. She’s also having her staff put our decorations up for us. Also with COVID she’s been very creative and helpful coming up with ideas for our outdoor venue and how to keep it warm. Should I tip her as well? If so how much? We want to have this prepared in envelopes before the wedding so someone in our wedding party can take care of it for us.

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Kia · on September 17, 2020 at 2:13 PM
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I watched Jamie Wolfer to figure out my tipping sitch. Here’s the URL to the video. Good luck! https://youtu.be/Wkzj9zo_wUw
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Lisa · on September 17, 2020 at 2:16 PM
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Here is a Wedding Wire article on who to tip: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/wedding-tipping-guide-amp.html
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Jana · on September 17, 2020 at 2:17 PM
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A tip is a thank you for going above and beyond the call of duty after the fact. So it is acceptable to wait until you can assess with an objective view a week or so afterwards if they performed well or not before you dispense the tips. Don't tip for bad service or just showing up. You tip what you feel they deserved.
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Alli · on September 17, 2020 at 2:20 PM
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I was unaware of all the tipping the day of like two weeks out!
We tipped officiant, catering/beverage staff, wedding planner, and chauffeur on the day of. Our wedding planner held everyone’s cards and gave them to them at the end of their service.
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Sarah · on September 17, 2020 at 3:19 PM
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Thank you!!!
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Sarah · on September 17, 2020 at 3:22 PM
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Bah, well this article contradicts the video that someone else commented with. Lol, I hate it. Like just put it in your price so I don’t have to think about it.
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Belle · on September 17, 2020 at 3:27 PM
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Gosh.... I rather have them tell me how much I need to pay in total, and not feel awkward for tipping too less or too much, or have to count in my head. Just saying 🤷🏻‍♀️
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Sarah · on September 17, 2020 at 3:29 PM
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Me too girl! That’s what we did with our caterer we just had them add it in. However I’m just learning that we’re supposed to tip other vendors too... ugh. We just paid everyone too, I wish we knew ahead of time so we could’ve built it into what we owe.
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Lisa · on September 17, 2020 at 3:31 PM
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I feel like there's a lot of contradicting info when it comes to tipping, I'm truthfully not 100% sure what is "correct". I do agree that a tip should be earned, so if the service wasn't great, that should be reflected in the tip.

Personally, I think tipping a predetermined amount to the photographer, videographer, officiant, and DJ (not based on their pricing), a 15-20% tip to hair/makeup artists, 15-20% for catering (unless the pricing includes gratuity already), a tip for bartenders, and a predetermined tip to the day-of coordinator, would all be sufficient.
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Belle · on September 17, 2020 at 3:32 PM
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Exactly! I think the US system needs to be changed. Put the taxes and tips and fees in the total. Just let us see the total price equal to everyone. We don’t deal with this in Asia and Europe. No one is offered anywhere if you don’t tip the waitress. The business owners need to pay them enough.
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