Who doesnt like the typical Announcement "Mr & Mrs John Smith?

Since I'm not changing my name, we'll be using "husband and wife" instead.

LOL, my pastor said "I now prononce you husband and wife", Introducing Mr. and Mrs. Michele and Gabriel Martinez. I was kinda surprised since like you said they always seem to use the mans first name.

Yeah I meant when introducing them. Like at my brother's wedding, the pastor said "Mr & Mrs (first & last name). I've heard it/seen it at other weddings too

I guess to me it feels like an ownership thing, I am an independent woman w/my own name.

Of course, I'm also the same w/being given away, my dad wont be giving me away, I go freely by myself

Yeah that's pretty much the staple and how it's always been. Never really bothered me though.

It doesn't bother me either! I'm excited ) and proud!

At FBIL's wedding (before I was in the pic), FSIL got pretty upset when they announced them as Dr. and Mrs. - she is the Dr.

Sara: oh wow, yeah if I earned that title, I'd be upset too.

Doesn't bother me, except for the fact that I want to hear the ring of "Michelle Holm" for the first time, so I will ask our MC to announce us using both our first names.

Yeah, I was coaxed into not minding my new last name, but being called Mrs. His First Name is still not ok. I may be part of his family now, but I'm still my own person.

I had the same kind of frustration when my new medicare card was mailed to DH, instead of me. Hello, 21st century here, women can vote, be doctors, and can receive their very own mail!

It doesn't bother me at all. I love that I am "Jaclyn Willson" now but I also like being Mrs. Joseph Willson.

I guess cause my husband has an older brother and a dad. They are both Mr. Willson and it kind separetes it, saying I am his wife and not theirs. Plus his mom also goes my ms. Willson and I want to be very clear that I am Mrs. Willson or something. LOL I am not sure if i am making sense but I love hearing it both ways.

I don't mind about the name thing but my wedding officiant will not be saying the "obey" part in my vows.....because that I will not be doing for the rest of my life. I will love him though.

I am not changing my name, but for the dj I said to intro us as mr and mrs jones. I have my name and I am keeping it. so this one was not a big deal for me. I agree why should people lose their identity because they get married.

I don't mind it. Ours just did Mr. and Mrs. Shafer. No first names. He was very progressive lol. The language doesn't bother me, because I'm pretty sure everyone understands I'm my own person, he doesn't own me, and I will not obey his every word. Most officiants also don't say it implying that you're beneath your husband. It's just habit and tradition. Our Justice of the Peace guy was very progressive like I said so there was no obey in our vows, but if there had been I wouldn't have minded.

Fortunately, since I didn't change my name with either of my marriages, I've never had to worry about this one.

Hmm never thought about this!!

I don't even remember how I was announced lol needless to say I didn't care.

But to your point (and The Polka Dot Queen's), I don't appreciate that my health insurance card has DH's name on it blasted largely on the front and my name scribbled oh-so-tiny on the back. (Yes, the card is mine; I'm on on his insurance plan)

Why I care about that? Who knows [:

Edited b/c I used the Polka Dot Queen's name and just realized she has reverted to her original alias LOL.

I also cringed at the thought of being introduced without my first name. I view marriage as a part of my identity (a very important part), but not the defining characteristic of me as a person. We had the DJ announce use as "Mr. and Mrs. Sean and Jamie W..."

Haha, I don't care if you call me by my real name if you know it, I just decided I would change it. Obviously I'm not in hiding, or if I am, I'm really really bad at hiding.

That being said, I addressed our invitations using the "Mr and Mrs John Smith" format, in order to use the most formal etiquette possible. But if I were to do it again, I might have addressed it using the wives' names as well. I hope I didn't offend any of our guests...

I will have them announce me as Mr. and Mrs. Alex and Diane L.....

I dont like the Mr.and Mrs. John Smith... I'm paying for half the wedding I want to hear my name! lol