Who gets a Plus 1? Did you invite kids as well?

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Yes! so we went from 50 to 85 guests now. super excited!

Plus ones are only for single people. Anyone in a relationship regardless of how long or boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged or married are a package deal. They are a social unit and need to be respected as such.


We decided to give everyone that was single a plus one and every one in a relationship was a package deal no matter what for us. If we couldn't invite both people in the relationship then neither got an invitation. We decided if we didn't have a budget for all the single people to have a plus one and for both people in relationships to come that we would cut down on plus ones so that everyone in relationships could have their so there. However we didn't have to so ever single got a plus one.

Oh and we are also having a 21 and older celebration not kids except the ones in the wedding

We aren't giving out "plus ones" unless they have been together(granted we are over a year away so things could change). But for the most part, I know who is our "forever single" friends with few exceptions so that's what I'm going off of at this point. I'm trying to be as fair as possible without killing myself since we both have big families.

As far as the kids- this is something I have STRUGGLED with! I LOVE kids and I LOVE our friends/families kids. But, I know our people well enough to know that the kids flock to me and I will end up being more preoccupied with them then enjoying myself the way I want to. And that's nothing against them. We have decided to do only kids above 13(I have family who are above 13 that I know will be able to occupy themselves, etc.) It seemed like the best way to include people without feeling like I'll end up being babysitter. lol. Hope this helps!

Personally, I think I'm doing it a bit differently than other people with regards to plus ones because of the current COVID mandate. If we haven't met the significant other, or if they are a new relationship, then we are not including a plus one. Unfortunately we are so limited in our numbers that we do not want to use space on someone we don't even know. It's not meant to be disrespectful to the relationship, and most people have understood so far. We are also doing no kids.

I went back and forth with this topic for a while. I am a little selective depending on the situation but ultimately engaged couples, those in serious relationships, and individuals that will not know anyone else at the wedding will get plus ones (and of course married couples are a given). Also, our wedding is adult only!

View Quoted Comment Completely agree! It makes no sense to invite ppl that you do not know and will never see you again..especially when it’s limited due to Covid.

Plus ones went to:

-together/living together over a year

-out of town friends (because traveling alone sucks)

people who were engaged I considered married.

No kids other than my niece