Who gets a plus one????

If they are in a relationship in any form its not a plus one. Plus ones go to the truly single people and that is at your discretion.

My brother and my cousin are not dating anyone at all, they are getting a plus one. My friend has been dating her boyfriend for not long and I just met him, he gets invited with her - it doesn't matter if you never met them - they get invited together.

If you want to extend plus ones to everyone you can, but you don't have to. The more people you invite the more expensive it gets.

If they are in a relationship, their significant isn't a plus one. They are a unit and should be invited as such. Plus ones are for people that are truly single and are optional.

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Putting it this way makes a lot of sense and helps sooo much!!!

You don't need to give it if they're single or under 18 (or 21, your choice). Invite their SO if they're still together when the invitations go out.

Significant others are not plus ones. However they are a social unit so they must be invited together, regardless if you have met them or not. FaceTime and Zoom do exist. The exception would be if the significant other is abusive or racist. If they have established themselves as a couple, regardless of the time together, you need to respect that as it is not your place to judge the validity of it. You can not ask someone to celebrate your relationship while disrespecting theirs.


Plus ones are random strangers for unattached singles. They are always optional and many couples do not invite them. There is always someone there at the wedding the single guests know who they can have fun with without needing to bring a stranger who doesn’t care about the couple.

Echoing what the PPs have said, proper etiquette is to invite the SOs of all people in relationships, whether you've met them or not. However, there is no need to extend plus ones to truly single people.

As far as who gets a true plus-1 - anyone you want! We’re letting all unpartnered people bring a plus 1 if they want. I don’t want anyone feeling alone - we aren’t in a big friend group per se, so most people won’t know each other.

But people in relationships are considered a social unit, so they should be invited together.

I personally invite couples and let every single person invite a plus one. It's awkward to go to a wedding alone.

Yep please ask the partner of anyone who identifies as being part of a couple. For truly single people it's at your discretion. I would extend a +1 to anyone who doesn't know anyone else at the wedding.