Who gets invited to the Bachelorette party?

I’m only inviting my bridal party and a a couple friends. It’s going to be about a dozen of us. I’m inviting all the women invited to the wedding to my bridal shower. But you invite who ever you want. It’s your party.

Are you sure they didn't mean the shower? Inviting all females to the bachelorette party is nuts

I only invited my bridal party and a close friend who couldn't come to the wedding or my shower, to the bachelorette. otherwise if you invite all females that's a lot of people

Haha I’ve never heard of anyone doing that! How bizarre. That’s a bridal shower thing, not a bachelorette party thing. My bachelorette is just my very closest friends.

My bridal party and other close friends were invited to mine.

Do you mean the bridal shower? Are your in-laws hosting it for you? Hosts dictate the people invited (all need to be people that are also invited to the wedding) but they should be consulting you).

If you truly mean your bachelorette party... why... are they getting a say in that?

Also, when you say "vice versa for my fiance, that's not how we're doing that" what do you mean? Who's saying that? And for what event... his bachelor party?

Sorry, we need more info.

View Quoted Comment 100% positive. Crazy right?

View Quoted Comment Nope! I meant the bachelor & bachelorette parties. They’re not getting a say in the final decision, the guest list was brought up in conversation. We don’t have a way around conversing the parties with them because my FFIL is the best man. However, they have been made aware that the invites will be extended to the wedding parties & some friends.

Haha I don't even know if I would do that for the bridal shower let along the bachelorette.

For my bachelorette I am inviting my four bridesmaids and a few other friends. Max 10

My bachelorette party was planned by my bridal party and it was just me and the 4 of them. The norm around me is that bachelorette/bachelor parties are typically the bridal party and maybe some other close friends, but they're usually not a huge gathering.

Uhm... when they are paying for it, let them. In your position I would just add another party with my chosen guests (close friends) on a different date.


I never had one because we were to young and broke for anything 23 years ago. We are renewing our vow. Finally having our wedding, privately, as I always wanted. Followed with the honeymoon. Yup, never had a honeymoon ever, but 3 kids 😂
I don’t plan for any party though. My besties are mostly in another country, and I only have one bestie who lives near me. Maybe I will just invite her to a night out.

Lol that’s a log of people

That’s A lot **

Eww no!

Even if they're thinking shower, not bachelorette, unless you're having a very small, close friends and family wedding, inviting ALL of the women to the shower is over the top. Massive gift grab.

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Yeah I was pretty taken back by it. They said everyone should at least be given the opportunity to come. I kept my opinions about it to myself because My MOH (my sister) along with the other bridesmaids know the drill for the guest list. Thank goodness this isn't any of their first rodeo's.

I posted this out of sheer curiosity! I wondered if anyone else has ever heard of such a thing. It sounds like the majority is saying no! lol.

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Even though we're having a small-ish wedding (80 guests), I still feel like there would be way too many people for a bach! I just want to hang out with my girlfriends, have some drinks and laugh. I don't want anything frilly or overwhelming, we decided to have a small wedding for that reason exactly.... My girls know me though and I totally trust them

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That's a great idea! I was thinking for the women that weren't invited to the bach party, we could host a BBQ at their house or even a tea party. I become very overwhelmed at the thought of a big party for any wedding festivity. If it was up to me, I would spend the weekend camping with my girls for my bach.

Your plans sound fantastic! Good for you, you deserve your honeymoon and I hope you have a beautiful time.

View Quoted Comment Did they possibly confuse bachelorette with bridal shower. Granted you can invite the ladies to the bridal shower, but even that should be an intimate moment that you share with close friends and family who are women. It’s not meant to be a big hurrah although over the years it has lost its purpose. Do what you want, just make sure with everyone’s suggestions you don’t lose sight of what you and your FH want.

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Nope, 100% certain they were talking about the bach & bachelorette parties. They thought it was strange I had never heard of it before! It was unreal. From what I hear, everything is already planned. Our wedding parties are surprising us with weekend trips!

View Quoted Comment Lol make sure you post photos - sounds kind of fun if your only job is to show up. 😂