who is responsible for the bridal shower expenses?

My FMIL is hosting mine and my mother is also hosting another. I won't be paying a dime.

Who ever offers to throw the shower, but you can also help if you can.

My MOH and a BM has offered to host a shower for me and I know they will pay for everything, if possible I will help them with a few things if they need. I definitely know that I'm paying a friend to come and take pics, it's not going to be too much because he's a friend, he actually didn't want to charge me but I insisted.

My MOH and my mom threw my shower. It can also be the bridal party, mother of the bride or FMIL ... or whoever wants to throw you one - I don't think there's a wrong or right answer.

My MOH and BMs are planning on paying for it but I let my sis (MOH) know that if anyone is a little short to let me know as I don't mind contributing.

Normally, the person throwing the party, i.e. MOH, MOB, etc.

Family, bridesmaids, maid of honor

Normally the bridesmaids host the shower, with the MOH organizing it. However, anyone but you can host a shower.

We are not having a shower. However, this discussion has come up about my daughter's wedding in August of 2012. Technically my daughter's BM's will host her shower(written on the invites), however, her FMIL and my ex's wife and I will help pay for the shower because we will be having it in a restaurant. We will probably have a cash bar. These get pricey, so we are all helping. Also, since the my daughter resides in Florida, we are hitting her with all family members at one shot.

Normally bridesmaids, MOH and your mother. What we've done was always split the expenses. Whatever tasks each person was assigned to was what they paid for..

Traditionally, it's supposed to be your aunt(s).

The reason you would not throw your own shower (which is essentially what you'd be doing if you paid for it) is because it is an event that specifically solicits gifts. It's one thing if someone else throws you a party at which guests are supposed to shower you with gifts; it's quite another if you invite people to a party for that purpose.

Bridal shower expenses are covered by the host- a family member, or MOH and bridesmaids, etc. That also means they get to select everything about the event- location, etc.

However, no one is obligated to throw you a bridal shower. It is done out of the kindness of their hearts, so be grateful no matter what is involved.