Who pays for bridal party hotel rooms?

I'm not 100% sure on the etiquette for this but I would assume that if you offer, you pay. I was in a wedding and the bride paid for the hotel room for the night before and they also had it for us for the night of the wedding for the bridesmaids to sleep in again but since everyone had a date, everyone ended up getting their own hotel rooms for the night of.

Right and three out of the four have dates so I guess i will just ask them what they prefer

If you absolutely require they stay at the hotel the night before, you pay.

If you are blocking the rooms and they just have the opportunity to stay at the hotel, they pay.

If you give people good heads up they should be able to travel to a venue to get ready. I've never heard of a bride require her BMs stay with her the night prior.

If you require it, you pay. Confused on what you actually want them to do. Do you want them to stay in your room with you? As a bride, I wouldn’t want to stay with four BMs and their boyfriends in one room. Also that’s weird, unless it’s a suite and you’re not all in one room. If you literally want them to stay in your room and their BFs to stay in separate rooms, that’s rude. I honestly would scrap the whole thing. I’d give them the option of staying with you but I’m guessing most will opt to stay with their dates. If you give them enough notice, they can (and probably will) book in the same hotel and there should be no issue coming to you to get ready.

2 of our groomsmen and one of my bridesmaids are from out of town. Since i don't want them sleeping on a strangers couch im going to get them a hotel room (1 for the boys, one for the bridesmaid and her boyfriend) for two nights

My MOH stayed in our hotel with me the night before the wedding - I paid. The night of the wedding, she stayed in another room with her husband - she paid for that one.

If you require it you pay, but if it were me, I would tell them about the block and let them make their own decisions. I've never been a fan of sleepovers, I feel like you never get good rest and that's important the night before your wedding (what if someone snores or wants to chat when you want to sleep?).

Ok ladies thanks.. I was thinking because all of them are from different cities then the one I'm getting married in, I figured I would pay for a suite for us the night before then get the block rooms for them and their dates the night of the wedding and they would pay for that if they staying

If they are staying with you because you offered, you pay. If they get a room to stay with their SO, that is their choice and they pay. However, if you are requiring them to stay at the hotel the night before (not necessarily in your room) then you should pay as well, as you would for any other requirement like hair and makeup.

For out of town weddings, I pay for myself because I'd be paying the same amount if I were attending as just a guest. If it were local and I were asked to get a hotel room, I'd hope the bride would at least offer to pay, since that is an expense I wouldn't otherwise incur. That also applies to out of town weddings; if it would require me to stay for longer than if I were just a guest, she should offer to pay for the extra night.

Same as MrsMcK. My MOH stayed in my room the night before, and none of our bridal party stayed the night of. Are they all local? Perhaps if you get a suite they can just stay with you the night before, in your room? If they are OOT and bringing guests, I'd assume they would have to come in the night before, I don't think that's a cost you'd have to pick up. But if they could stay for free in their own homes, and your making them stay with you but not allowing them to stay in your room, you'd have to pay.

I think it is a bit much to require that any of the bridal party stay with you. If you offer, and they accept, you pay. You also don't get upset if they say "I'd rather sleep with my SO, thanks."

Let them take advantage of the block and book their own rooms if they choose for the night before or the night after the wedding. There's no reason for you to insert yourself into booking their rooms.

Ok sounds good .. I never said it was a requirement they stay just thought it would be easier for them since they are out of town and one out of state

I was in one wedding where the bridesmaids all stayed in a suite with the bride the night before the wedding. Clearly, she paid for that. Otherwise, you can just trust that they can show up on time to get ready or give them staying in the hotel as an option.

I'm offering for mine to stay with me at the hotel the night before, and I'll be paying for the room if they join me. It will also be the room that we do make-up in the day of the wedding.

So my husband and I did not stay together the night before the wedding. We stayed in the hotel with many of our guests b/c our wedding venue was about an hour from home. My husband and I booked 2 rooms the night before, one for him and his GM and one for me and my BM. Most of our wedding party was from out of town and they were so thankful to be able to get a night for free. My husband and I paid for the two rooms the night before. The night of the wedding they all had their own accommodations. We did not require they stay the night before, we invited them and all but 1 GM took us up on it.

I'm with Mrs fall bride, if they are out of town/state then aren't their dates coming from out of town with them? Where would their dates stay the night before the wedding? I don't think you are doing them any favors asking if they want to stay with you if their dates are going to have to have their own room anyways. They should stay with their dates, not you. If you have a BM without a date you can offer to her, but I wouldn't even offer to others. They may feel like they should stay with you if you ask even if they don't want to because that would leave their dates alone.

@muriel I agree with you.

I booked the bridal suite where we're getting ready. It's a two bedroom suite, and my FH and I are staying in a different room, so I offered the suite to my bridesmaids. One of my friends is getting her own room with her fiance so he isn't kicked out while we're getting ready. The other two girls are crashing in the bridal suite. I also am not sure what etiquette is, but I knew this was the room I wanted to get ready in, so I booked it and offered it to them.

Your plan for the wedding day would mean you would pay, since you are setting everything up and pretty much hosting the event.

if they wanted to buy a room the night of the can purchase that.

i am getting a suite that i paid for that the girls can stay with me the night before. we will all be getting ready in the morning together there. If they want to buy a room from the block for the night of, we welcome them