A very recent rift has just occurred with my family and my fiancé’s family on who pays for who. Currently, me and my family are covering: food, desserts, ceremony/reception venue, my dress, decor, photographer, videographer, bridal party gifts, favors for guests, and officiant.
My mom’s expectation is that my fiancé and his family pay for what she believes is traditional to do: flowers and the honeymoon. We are taking a domestic honeymoon in the same state and it will cost only about $1,200, if that. Flowers only about $770. My family then has to pay over $10,000 for everything else.
I found out this morning that his family actually believes that the bride’s family pays for the wedding and the groom pays for the rehearsal dinner and I am shocked. The rehearsal dinner space is included in our venue fee (and isn’t differentiated, so i don’t know how much it costs itself) and the actual dinner portion only feeds maybe 20 people.
Am I right to feel kind of frustrated? My family doesn’t have enough money to cover the flowers and the honeymoon amongst everything else, and it’s frustrating me that they believe it’s an even split. What has everyone else done?