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Keri

Who should be in my wedding photos?

Keri, on March 23, 2023 at 11:36 AM Posted in Planning 0 6

I'm in a bit of a pickle. My wedding is 6.5 months away and we are trying to choose a photographer. My fiancé is actually old friends with a local photographer who is really good, but he wants to know how many people will be in our wedding photos before he gives us a price. And I honestly have no idea who I want to be in my photos.

We are not having any bridesmaids or groomsmen. So just family makes sense. However, my fiancé has eleven people in his immediate family alone and I have three people.

I love his family and I'm thrilled to be marrying him and becoming part of his family. But I want a more even side of my own. I'm just really struggling. Should I just pick a few close relatives and friends even though they aren't in the wedding? Is that good etiquette or appropriate? What would you do? Thanks for the help!

(Side note: I kind of feel like the groom in "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" with my small family.)

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Latest activity by Teresa, on March 23, 2023 at 10:51 PM
  • Erin
    Super May 2022
    Erin ·
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    This sounds very weird. Photographers normally quote prices based on how long you want them to follow you around for the day - example $1500 for 8 hours, $2000 for 10 hours, etc, etc. I would ask this photographer if he can just quote you for how long you guys want him there for the day and also start looking at other photographers.
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  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
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    Probably the bride and groom. Can you just do parents and grandparents for the photographer's pictures?

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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    I’ve never heard of a photographer basing prices on how many people will be in photos. This just sounds really odd. I get wanting to know an approximate number just for planning purposes, but it shouldn’t have anything to do with the pricing. I would let him know that you aren’t sure at this point how many people will be in photos (and that you don’t plan to finalize that until right before the wedding), so could he please quote you a price based on the amount of time you would like his services. If he gives any pushback, I would probably start looking for a different photographer.
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  • C
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    This isn’t about even sides. You make a list of groups of people important to you and request the shots that are important to you whether they are of family, extended family, friends, or any combination. Photos are not exclusively of the bridal party, even when there is one. I’ve never personally heard of a photographer charging by the subject as opposed to a package deal or by their time.


    Also, if this is an old friend, do you really want him there as a vendor as opposed to being invited as a guest?
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  • Keri
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    Oh! When I say old friend, I don't think they've talked since college. So it's been like 10 years.


    And good to know that anyone can be in the photos regardless of wedding parties.
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  • Teresa
    Rockstar May 2024
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    I have never heard of a photographer giving a price on headcount... I would definitely be looking for someone else. sounds like he's trying to make a bunch of money off of you and your FH. That's not a friend at all.

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