Who Sits At The Head Table?

We are having a head table, since we are only having a MOH and best man the MOH’s boyfriend and best mans wife will be sitting up with us!

View Quoted Comment That's awesome that you're including the significant others of the MOH and best man! How are you setting up the seating arrangements? Will they be sitting next to their significant others? Or across from? I'm trying to figure out whether to seat the significant others of our wedding party at our head table (plus our ushers/flower girl/ring bearers), and also trying to figure out how to setup the arrangements at the head table (next to? across from? at a completely separate table?), and not sure how this normally goes.

Please sit the members of the wedding party with their SO's. It's the polite thing to do. If you want everyone up at the head table, maybe seat them on both sides like a king's table.

View Quoted Comment I was thinking of doing this! We have 6 bridesmaids/MOH, and 6 groomsmen/best man (so 12 total). We were thinking about seating this significant others across from each of them, but not sure if this is how this is typically done, or if we should do a "significant others" table, or just do a sweetheart table and seat the wedding party at a totally separate table with their dates. Not sure what's best though, would it be too many people if we sat 12 people (plus my fiance and I) all at the same table?

We're doing a sweetheart table for our reception (we also did it for our minimony). We are seating our bridal party with their partners/each other for the reception. They won't all be at one table though.

View Quoted Comment This is a cool idea! When I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding, she had a sweetheart table, with the wedding party split among two tables with each of their significant others. I think this is a fun idea! My fiance really wants to seat everyone at the same table, so we're trying to figure out how to do this, but I really appreciate your perspective! Are you doing two "wedding party/significant others" tables? Or are you mixing wedding party (and their significant others) with other guests?

View Quoted Comment Mixing the wedding party & their significant others with the guests they are closest too!

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That's a good question for the venue. I wonder if they have photos of the various setups so you can see what you like best? I would do a kings table or a sweetheart table. Good luck sorting it out!

View Quoted Comment Since there is six of us my FH and I will be in the middle. My MOH will be sat next to me and her s/o next to her on the end. Best man will be sat next to my FH with his wife next to him on the end it’ll be a rectangle table where my guest tables are round. My flower girls and ring bearers are sitting at a guest table with their parents and my FH’s parents (kids grandparents)

Hello ! We were with our parents at our table. I made that decision including our parents' demands... If I wanted to be with our Bride Team and their partners, so also kids... we would be too many for one table. And then I would have to put my mum with my friends, as they were the only ones who speak her language. So I prefered having her with me. And my husband's dad was already ill, had some troubles while eating, and he didn't want to be seen by other family members..

However, I think that I should have chosen a sweethearts table. We didn't have much time "for us" that day, it would be better to be together more...

View Quoted Comment This sounds like an awesome idea!

View Quoted Comment Good point! I hadn't really considered asking the venue about this, I will check with them. Thank you for your input!

View Quoted Comment That makes sense! Sounds like a good seating arrangement. It makes sense about the flower girls and ring bearers sitting with their parents. Should ushers also be included at the head table? Or do they typically sit with other guests?

View Quoted Comment Very cool that your parents sat at the head table with you! A sweetheart table makes sense, I've seen many people comment on these forums that they didn't get much time alone with their new spouse at their reception, so a sweetheart table would be a great opportunity to do that.

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Who are you having as ushers? I was going to have my brother and my good guy friend be ushers and my brother will just sit with my cousins since they're all around the same age and my friend will sit with his fiancée at a guest table. I say keep the head table strictly wedding party as in bridesmaids and groomsmen

Our head table went:

Bridesmaid Bridesmaid MOH Me DH BM Groomsman Groomsman

View Quoted Comment We've got my brother-in-law and my brother as ushers. This is where it gets a little complex: my fiance wants to include wedding party (bridesmaids and groomsmen) and each of their dates at one head table. My sister is my MOH, so if we included dates of the wedding party, my brother-in-law would also sit at the head table as her date. So, my brother would be the only one not at the head table. However, with my fiance and me, our wedding party, and their dates, we're already at up to 24 people at the head table, which seems like a lot for one table. A couple of our wedding party members won't really know many people at the wedding (and their dates won't know anyone except their date), so I'm hesitant to split them up during dinner, though I also don't think I want to do a table with over 20 people. I'm thinking about suggesting to my fiance that we have multiple head tables (all near each other) instead of one long table.

View Quoted Comment Very cool! This seems like a good arrangement. Where did you seat the dates of the wedding party members?

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MOH and one of the groomsmen are together, so they were both up there and their daughter was with my parents and my nephews (ring bearers), then the families for the rest of the people just sat with other family members and/or their children.

View Quoted Comment That makes sense! Seems like everything worked out well!