Who to choose for moh

Can you make them co-MOHs? Or, if your cousin is getting married first, you could make her the matron of honor and your best friend MOH. Just some ideas!

This!!

NEVER choose someone because you feel obligated. I was a bridesmaid in one of my friends' weddings and she's not in my bridal party. I'm not regretting my decision, nor is she holding a grudge against me on it. If you want your best friend to be your MOH, then she should be your MOH.

People should never ask to be a bridesmaid. That would be a no from me. The position belongs to your nearest dearest most supportive person. For many that is a sister or a best friend. It should be something you have to think about.

Obligation needs to go off and die. Do not invite anyone out of obligation to please others or put someone in an honor position out of obligation.

Choose who you want! Yes, there may be hurt feelings (I had a friend who definitely thought she was going to be my MoH who was not, and she was really upset), but that's much better than having any sort of regret or having to navigate any drama that could come from having co-MoHs. (Not saying that's always the case, but sometimes.)

If your cousin is getting married first you can have her as Matron of Honor, while best friend is Maid of Honor?

But if you are only having one, you should pick the person you are most closest to. If you would rather the best friend, then you should pick the best friend.

If she hasn't asked, you don't really have to do anything about it, or even think about it except stick with your original idea of making the friend a BM. I mean just because you are a MoH in someone's wedding, doesn't mean that person has to be your MoH.

Even is she did ask, it is bad etiquette to ask to be a bridesmaid or MoH.