Who to invite

Make a list of those people who you are currently super close to and can’t imagine the day without. Make a second list of those people who you were close to at one time but don’t communicate with anymore. Everyone on the second list does not get an invitation but you can se d an announcement if you choose after the wedding. You can’t put your energy into worrying that you will upset them by not inviting them because you would still be close if you were mutually important to each other. Most people know and understand that weddings have become very expensive over the years and are not the community wide cake and coffee anymore that they used to be.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Michelle. Good advice

The guest list always seems to be one of the toughest parts - not wanting to leave anyone out, but also being mindful of budget and space. We struggled with this for our original date (we postponed due to COVID), and are now planning on downsizing our guest list a bit for our new date. Weddings don't necessarily need to be an event where literally everyone you've ever met gets an invitation. Make a list of everyone who you are considering inviting, and then go through the list again and circle those who you are closest to and cannot imagine your day without. Only send invitations to those who you circled on the list. If anyone asks why they didn't receive an invitation, you could just say that due to budget and venue capacity, you unfortunately couldn't include everyone who you wanted to.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Lisa. Very helpful

Hi! you could maybe try one of these...?

View Quoted Comment Thank you Emilia! That’s helpful too

Also keep in mind that your wedding is not a family reunion. Parents can start a tradition of a family reunion picnic at another time if they want to get together with relatives. They have already gotten married as well so only you and fiancé’s decisions make the final cut regarding guest list and any other planning.

View Quoted Comment Good point Michelle!