Who’s getting married this week? (12/09/19 - 12/15/19)

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You're nearly there, Katherine! Where is your dress at the moment? Is it in the store?

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Hi Archer! Congratulations on hitting 6 years, that's a wonderful milestone I think you might be selling yourself short here, if she has spent 6 years with you I'm sure it's because she wants to be with you, and not because she can't find anyone else, that would be a really really long time to spend with someone you didn't love. And I think it shows how thoughtful you are that you're looking for ways to make sure you remember your anniversary, like downloading this app and trying to line up your proposal and wedding on the same special date so there's just one to remember. Truth be told, I never remembered my dating anniversary, and my husband still loved and married me - because while I didn't do well at remembering that date I showed my love in other ways, as I'm sure you do. We turned my forgetfulness into a little joke, like for valentine's day one year he gave me a little picture with our anniversary date on it so I could see it in the house all year long.

Could some of these feelings be pre-proposal nerves? Are you proposing tomorrow??

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It's nearly here, I'm so excited for you!!

View Quoted Comment That sounds like a really good idea, posting the date could help a lot. I dont think so, my depression has been acting up really bad lately (and since we dont live together or anywhere near each other) it was the firat time shes seen how bad my depression and anxiety can get. It scared her a lot, and what happened the other day happens quiet often. Its one of the many reasons my parents hate me and i just dont want her to hate me too one day because of it. I would really like to but im not sure.

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I'm sorry you're in a rough place right now, and that you don't have a good relationship with your parents. Sharing these issues can be a really important and intimate step in your relationship with your partner, letting her see this side of you. Do you see a therapist? Maybe your partner could come along to one of your sessions, or you could talk to your therapist about ways of discussing your struggles with your partner. For me, when I struggle with anxiety I try to be really communicative with my DH, telling him directly whether I want him to cheer me up or leave me on my own or to distract me or to be extra nice to me... It's how I make sure I'm dealing with my own feelings in the way that's best for me, while also making sure he knows how to best support me so he doesn't worry about doing the wrong thing.

If for right now you need to focus on your wellness then there's no rush to propose, you can still celebrate your anniversary together tomorrow. I hope whichever plan you decide that tomorrow will be a great day for both of you

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Thank you, Jo! I appreciate it

View Quoted Comment I used to see a therapist two seperate ones but none of the medication they put me on helped at all and talking with them only got me in trouble. After they realized how bad my thoughts and depression was they put me in a mental health ward and wouldnt let me out till i started lieing and telling then the thoughts had stopped. Ever since i wont go see people, its safer (and a lot cheaper) just ignoreing everything and disappearing whenever my depression acts up.
And your partner doesnt get mad at you for your anxiety?
Thank you, i hope the day is good no matter what.

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That's really serious stuff, Archer. I think you owe it to yourself to keep searching until you find the right therapist and medication that works for you. It's so hard to keep searching when you don't feel well but it pays dividends in the long run. And maybe that's something your partner could help you with, through lending a hand and encouraging you to keep looking. My partner gets sad for me but never ever mad at me, just like he doesn't get mad when I get a migraine or that my foot's in a cast right now - that's my health but it's not who I am, just like your depression isn't who you are. I'm sorry if that's been your experience in the past but I promise that's not how everyone will react.

I'll email you privately with a few resources, but for anyone who might be struggling with anxiety or depression or even pre-wedding stress, I can't recommend highly enough sites like 7 Cups of Tea and The Samaritans when you need someone to listen with non-judgemental support.

I’m so stressed, excited and anxious!!! I’m ready for it to be here!!!

We are getting married Saturday the 14th at 3pm so excited yet nervous at same time.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Plan B there's a gazebo we can use, but otherwise, were having a beautiful beach wedding! 🌊🌴🌞

December 15th for me! 👰🤵💍

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Even if you have to end up using the gazebo, it will still be a beautiful day

View Quoted Comment I can't wait!

I hope everyone getting married this weekend has the most amazing day

I can't wait to hear how everything goes.

Congratulations to you all

View Quoted Comment Date twins! Got married December 15th too! Congratulations! 🍾🥂