Who's invited to the rehearsal dinner?

We are having a DW. The majority of ppl are coming in the night before so we're doing a welcome/rehearsal dinner at our condo, my fsil and cousin will cook, and everyone will be there about 35ppl total.

We only invited bridal party and their spouses, his parents and our officiant (his cousin)

I didn't want a second wedding which is what ours would have turned into.

We are just doing bridal party and local parents (his mom and step dad live 2 hours away)

We are just hosting the bridal party, our parents, and our grandparents. About 50% of our guest list is out of town and it just didn't seem realistic to host such a huge rehearsal dinner. We have about 35 people total including the people I mentioned above and that felt more reasonable to us.

Traditionally, it is everyone involved in the actual rehearsal. The Bridal party and spouses, not everyone invited to the wedding.

We have a guest list of about 200, and are inviting all out of town guests, bridal party, and immediate family. If everyone comes, it'll be about 50 people at the rehearsal dinner although there are quite a few who we do not expect to come. FH and I live in WI just over the IL boarder and the wedding is in IL just west of O'Hare Airport (about an hour and a half from us) We have decided that outside of the bridal party, people from Wisconsin (who all live in the same relative area) will likely not be staying at the hotel the night before (driving an hour or 2 is a nothing-burger in the midwest lol) so they will not be invited. We have A LOT of other guests from outside IL/WI. FFIL is paying for the rehearsal dinner so we are trying to be mindful of numbers while still respecting family/midwest? tradition of inviting out of state guests.

We had a DW so everyone was OOT, so we invited everyone. Out of the 80 that came to the wedding about 50 came to the RD. It was a really nice time to be with our guests who traveled from all over the country to be with us.

Our wedding is considered "destination" to the majority of our guests (2+ hrs of traveling involved). We've reserved room blocks and have given people the option to stay Friday and Saturday, Saturday or not at all. Our rehearsal dinner will only include our immediate families, wedding party and their families (about 45 people total). With that being said, we are inviting any OOT guests coming in that Friday evening to join us at a local brewery following our rehearsal dinner

We are having about 30 guests. Our grandparents, parents, siblings & bridal party & their dates, and out of town guests (we don't have that many that's why we included them)

We are having just our bridal party, the officiant and maybe our parents. We just want a little sweet get together.

Traditionally you just invite everyone who is in the wedding/their significant other, officiant. Parents.
We are inviting our wedding party/their significant other, my mom, his dad and dads fiance, his mom and boyfriend. Also inviting my grandma, his grandma, also inviting my uncle(the officiant) and his wife.
So about 22 people

We are having the wedding party and their spouses plus our parents and grandparents so about 30 people... But now reading the comments I'm a little concerned, are you supposed to invite OOT guests as well to a rehearsal dinner? I thought it was just the people involved in the ceremony that way you can run through everything? But I have a lot of OOT guests coming and now I'm wondering if I need to add them to the list?

We are inviting out of town guest as they paid a lot of money to fly, get rental cars, and hotel stay to come to our wedding so we want to honor them also! We are having about 45 to the RD

I’m inviting everyone bc it’s a semi DW. idk how many ppl will actually rsvp yes.

I personally don't think it's rude at all to not invite OOT guests. Rehearsals are meant to be intimate. I have never been to a rehearsal dinner with that many people either. It was always just bridal party, parents, and maybe SO's/spouses. We are still considering if we are doing SOs/spouses of our bridal party or not. Since ours gets sort of out of control number wise as well if we included them.

Ours will be our bridal party, parents, officiants and spouses/significant others. There may be a stray friend or two, knowing my FH. I'm estimating about 25-30 people

I've been to both types of rehearsal dinners (one where OOT guests were invited, and one where they weren't). You can opt to do either. We are including our OOT guests, but our rehearsal dinner won't be an extravagant affair either. We are doing a casual and simple shrimp boil and serving beer.

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100% you should invite SOs/spouses of the bridal party. It'd be really inconsiderate to not. You're asking people to celebrate your relationship but you are ignoring theirs...

A RD doesn't have to be fancy, but it should always include those in the BP, parents, siblings, and the officiant (if they're attending the RD) plus ALL of their SOs.

We are doing BP (plus the 3 or so significant others), officiant (FH uncle), immediate family (so his uncles family, my uncle and family & our parents) and if any out of town guests will already be down. So we are looking at about 30 people but out guest list is 85 so a little more. I will definately try to cut it back but is what it is haha

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I am not having this argument again... lmao. And I am not the only one who said it on this post. Thank you for your input but I will do whatever our families think is necessary. I have been to rehearsal dinners where the SO's weren't there so it's fine in our circle.