Why are people so stupid?

I can't stand people who invite others.

I got back a blank RSVP. No name in the name blank, neither "Happily Accepts" or "Regretfully Declines" was checked. Luckily, I marked my RSVPs so I know who sent it, but still- WTF? Really? Nothing? Blank? I guess either they used invisible ink or they think I am a mind reader!

My FFIL always adds on all of his kids and their families to his invites. It's all weddings for my FH's side of the family. None of the kids get invites so his dad takes it upon himself to invite us all along. It drives me nuts! We always tell him no because we weren't invited.

I think, in the case of the lady with the 10 year old, I understand the question. The 10 year old will, most likely, not interact with any adults at the wedding. If she has a friend there, she will feel more at ease.

But, bottom line, that is your call, as it is one more person to feed.

Ugh. One of my close friends from high school who has been single forever did that. Like, at least since we graduated college 4 years ago, he has been single. His invite was addressed just to him. His RSVP came back for 2. Curious, since I hadn't heard anything from him or anyone else about this, I decided to investigate via Facebook first, so as not to stir any drama or anything. He changed his status in the last 10 days to In a Relationship. We sent the invites out 10 days ago. I get he's tired of coming to weddings alone, but, that being said, we've been to enough weddings of friends that by now, he should know etiquette (one of our other friends didn't bring his GF because his invite was only to him -- and he talked about it at the last wedding we attended!) Argh.

@haley the unknown person probably declined the invite and didn't want to upset you and your fh.

I think you were smart to write "and guest" on there, even if he/she didn't "get it." I can see that futuremrsmoney and I have totally different expectations when it comes to invites. I would expect a single friend to bring a date. I guess the good thing is since your friend didn't happen to notice how it was addressed, at least he/she asked instead of making an assumption he/she could bring someone. That was considerate.

This is why I planned a very simple wedding which is basically limitless for how many people can come - it won't cost me extra and I don't give a crap who comes! Lol!

If any of my nieces or nephews (ages 17, 15, 10, 6 & 5 ~ plus FH's - 4 & 5)ask if they can bring a friend, I swear I'll smack them upside the head! LOL!!

Crap, that reminds me, I need to ask FH if we can drop the 'plus ones'!! I don't trust any of his cousins to bring responsible dates! :/

I totally understand your frustration. I wish I could say it will stop...but it won't just try not to let it bother you. It really is not worth your energy. Just say "yes they can come" or "no I'm sorry we have a strict limit" (or something to that effect) according to your wishes and brush it off.

@Hayley T.- They probably didn't realize how the RSVP was supposed to work lol

(and on a totally unrelated note... I LOVE YOUR PUPPY!!! I have a dacshund mix! best dogs ever!

@KK- that's so funny about the 10 year olds.. did someone say Hannah Montannah was gettin' married?!?!?!?! haha.. how weird.. I would never think to invite my kid's little friend to a wedding... Does she have to babysit that day???

I got from my aunt when I told her the date of the wedding "Oh that's the week your cousin is graduating and he is gunna be busy the whole week, why did you pick THAT day?"

I find myself asking the same question, quite often!

LOL @ Hannah Montanna

I understand fully your frustration. My FH has a girl that he claimed as his daughter. Not his nor adopted. She threw a fit a few days ago because we told her we dont want her current boyfriend at the wedding. He is 25 years old and a felon. He has assault charges on him from his baby's mother. She pulled her two children out of the wedding and only 39 days till the wedding. She did this to hurt my FH. Well I turned around and told her that we already had stand by's to fill the positions and they will fit the clothes that her children would of worn. And that I knew she would pull this garbage. And he uninvited her from the wedding as well.

I am very concerned this will happen w/ us and I am trying my best to incorporate not only Adult only reception but another way to list that the invite is strictly for those listed on there when we send the rsvp cards. Not sure how to do it in a nice way but if anyone has any ideas I'd surely appreciate it!!

I was dealing with the same thing! Our invitations were VERY clear. Written out to exactly who was invited, exactly where the ceremony and reception were going to be (at the same place) and what time. My wedding is 4 days away and I STILL have friends texting me "What time do I get there?" "What do I wear?" "Is the reception at the same place?" I'm about ready to turn my phone off. After all this planning I'm ready to relax!

Kathleen, we did, "___ seat(s) are reserved in your honor." We had a few people nag us to include more plus-ones, but we held firm because we didn't want a bunch of randoms there.

Allison, wait until the day of...I had people texting to ask if we'd changed the ceremony time (wtf?), if we were providing transportation, where we were registered, etc...I was like, "It's on the website! You're a web designer, figure it out!"

I've been going through the same thing. My aunt and uncle in texas were invited, but they said my great aunt won't be coming because of her health. So we sent their invitation, and just put my aunt and uncles name. We got it back, and the wrote my great aunts name on it too, ok whatever. She was going to be invited anyway. Then we heard by word of mouth that they are also bring my great uncle who I have met once in my life! That pissed me off, but my mom okay'd it after the fact. I don't think they were going to ever tell us they were bringing him either.