Why are you getting married?

Tax benefits.

His proposal speech I memorized: "Meghan you are the love of my life. I love you with all my heart and soul. Nothing changes that. So, just for fun.....will you marry me?"

We are marrying because of financial benefits. We can spend the rest of our lives together unmarried and be happy we just find it makes more sense to be married because we chose to start a family so its more for taxes and insurance and other financial reasons we are legally binding ourselves to one another. The paper means nothing in comparison to how much we love and cherish each other. And for us that is fine. I feel like if either of you are questioning why its really a conversation you two should have and be completely open. Even if your reasons aren't exactly the same it can still work as long as they are both meaningful enough.

Why would he have felt like he had to propose?

I'm getting married because my FH and I love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together. And being married instead of just doing that anyways offers some tax benefits and bling for us both

Seriously though, we're getting married because we love each other and want to dedicate our lives to each other.

I'm going to have to agree with a lot of the comments here and say that it's a very personal question that you and your FH need to sit down and talk about. Best of luck to you

That's an odd concern. I don't think he's concerned about your reasoning, I think there's something going on with him and you need to talk to him.

To answer your question: he's my best friend. He's a part of me I can't live without. We spend all our time together. we talk, we laugh, we play. We love each other and we work for a shared goal. We put each other first. Throughout the day we think about each other and make decisions that'll make the other happy. It's the million little things that add up every day

My partner lightens the load on my shoulders, smooths my edges, and reminds me there's goodness in the world. Neither of us is willing to imagine a future without the other. But we're getting married for the legal benefits- medical POA if one of us gets in a car crash, tax benefits, that sort of thing.

My FH and I didn't know if we wanted to ever pull the trigger on getting married again. We both had very nasty break ups & divorces from our first marriages. We knew just how painful and deep those feelings of failure are and neither of us want to experience it again. and we didn't know if we wanted to risk it. We knew pretty much immediately after we started seeing each other that we were meant to spend the rest of our lives together, but the concept of marriage had this huge dark cloud over it for a long time. Then we started talking about the future and starting a family, and the benefits that legally establishing ourselves would bring. But then he told me that he still wasn't sure he wanted to take that step and I dropped it and was happy knowing at least I had him as my life partner. Then one day he asked me if I wanted to look at rings- That he'd given it time and thought and realized that the past was just that and we couldn't compromise our future because of it.

And literally not one time since then has either one of us questioned the others commitment or motivation. To me asking a question like that to my partner is only a reflection of my own insecurities

Because I don't know a better person on this world. He completes me and makes me want to be a better person.

We are marrying because 1) we know that we are perfect together and 2) because we want to have jobs over seas and a legal marriage helps each other get a visa when the other gets a job.

Because he's my person every minute of everyday. He's my best friend, my lover. I have no insecurities around him. I can tell him anything. We met in college and really grew up and learned how to be adults together. Our love was real and he stood up for me when all his friends were making fun of him for "being in love", like it was something he wasn't allowed to feel after 4 years of dating. Even when I fail he pulls me up and tell me it's okay and we're gonna get through this. He's my love, my shoulder, and the most hilarious person I ever met who loves life more than anyone I've ever met. Life is so amazing with him and I want to declare that love forever.

‘My FH is afraid I'm wanting to get married for all the wrong reason, meaning get married to only have the title of being his wife.‘

And how is wanting the title of being his wife wrong exactly?! He should be honoured that you want this.

Cause I never thought I would find a bigger weirdo then me LOL

I'm getting married because he's my person. He knows me better than I know myself sometimes. We enjoy so many things together.

Yes, like every couple we have our moments and tough times, but the key is that we're ALWAYS willing to work through it because we care and love each other. I know I've come on here searching for advice on various things, we always end up talking and figuring it out like a team.

At first I did not want to get married, to anyone. I didn't really have great examples of marriage growing up...but he changed my mind and now I'm so excited to be a family with him. I see my kids, fur child, and other various animals in our future and I don't want to experience that with anyone else.

I agree with others that it sounds like there's a bigger issue at hand...I would talk it out...

I want to be there to see him achieve his hopes and dreams and he wants to be there for me to.

Because I WANT to marry him. We have been inseparable literally from the minute we met. We make each other mad sometimes. We make each other happy too. But back in May his best friends were in town and we weren't engaged yet. I thought he had a ring but wasn't sure. I had been having stomach pain all day but decided to go to dinner with everyone anyways. I am wasn't being particularly nice to him (because I was hurting). The next day we were scheduled to leave early go to the zoo as a large group. I felt so bad when I woke up my SO and asked him to drive me to the ER. Never once did he complain, roll his eyes. He simply got up, put on clothes, and drove me to the ER. He sat next to me as I threw up for 30 minutes. The doctors finally gave me morphine, knocked me completely out. I woke up probably 45 minutes later and looked next to me, there he was. He stayed with me until I was admitted for an emergency appendectomy at 7am. You don't let love like that go.

We made a decision to marry because we are a great team. We tag team in ministry, we have the same desires for our future. When I started my business, he took MY dream and made it HIS hustle. We are so much more than just best friends. We rejoice in each others triumphs and pray each other through the challenges in life. We couldn't imagine life without each other.

***Haven't read all of the comments

You mentioned he worries about you changing based on his last marriage. I'm going to presume, based on this statement, it did not end well. Did he ever go to counseling on his own? It sounds like he's projecting what happened then onto what he's going through now (which is being married again). It might be wise for him to talk to someone about this.

We got married 33 years ago, because: 1. We wanted to spend our lives together, and live together. 2. We wanted the blessing of our parents, family, and church community. 3. We wanted the stability of knowing we had a lifelong commitment. 4. We wanted to have children and raise them in a stable family. 5. We wanted the legal status and benefits.

Why have we stayed married: 1. Because of the lifelong commitment. 2. Because of the children. 3. Because whenever we go through a rough patch, if we hang in there, we come out again on the other side, stronger and closer than ever.

Ok, off topic, I know- but that part about the Mars Rover is the cutest- and saddest- thing I've read in a long time

We are getting married because we are best friends. We enjoy camping, hiking, kayaking, bike riding, concerts, and just spending time with each other. We always have something to talk about and laugh about. We support each other, and we are each others person we go to when we need someone to lean on. FH is also amazing, funny, handsome, and quirky. I do not think anyone else in this world could handle the shenanigans that we put each other through!

I just love him so so so so much!