Why did you decline?

I've only declined once. I stepped down as a BM and there was a huge falling out. I was insulted that I was even sent an invite when the bride didn't want to work things out. We had already gotten an STD so I guess I can't fault her for following etiquette.

I've actually never declined a wedding. None of my friends have gotten married young, so they are just now starting to roll in. I'm really the first one of my close friends to get married, and I'll be just shy of 27. I've been to 2 in the past year that have been roughly two hours away and required hotel rooms, and we have two before our wedding this year. Looks like we'll have some lined up for 2017, too. I think I'll try to make everyone as long as it's planned in advance. I love weddings!

I've declined twice, both because I was clearly b-listed. In one case, they just called me (it was before Facebook existed) and invited me, two weeks before the wedding.

The other couple came to my parents' place to hand-deliver the invite, but happened to inform us that we were being invited because the bride's parents had complained about us not being invited. WTF.

I've never missed a wedding but none of my friends are married yet, so it's only been family weddings. I don't think I would decline unless I had a conflict or couldn't afford to go.

The only weddings we've declined are ones we weren't able to attend for financial reasons.

I have never had a solid reason to decline an invite I could have otherwise attended. If we made it through many guest list cuts and still managed to be invited it makes me feel the couple actually wanted us there and I wouldn't decline because I didn't feel like going or they made a minor faux pas.

Oh, we also declined a destination wedding to Mexico where we were required to stay at the all-inclusive resort where the wedding was being held. In other words, we had to pre-pay for our drinks AND the meal served at this wedding.

The only "decline" I ever did was when a couple of FH's friends didn't even invite us, but like three days before the wedding said we could come after 9 if we wanted to and crash and hit up the bar.

They also have told FH over FB how excited they are for our wedding. Oh, we were inviting you?

So........the takeaway?

They're not that into you.

Cut the bloated guest lists.

(And this is not an indictment in any way of people who decline....

There were a couple of family weddings (my side) where a flight was required. hubby stayed home, while I attended with my father and sister. A dear friend married a 2-hour flight away, and I was 7 months pregnant, with a complication that could have led to an early C-section, so I regrettably had to decline; if not, I would have been there.

I've actually never declined a wedding invitation. I went to 2 weddings before I met my husband and we've been to about 12 weddings since we've been together.

That's fair.

I only declined one wedding because it was a destination wedding. Strictly speaking, I did have enough money to go, but I just did not want to spend over $3k on that type of vacation. I feel kind of bad for not going, but that's still a lot of money.

The only wedding I declined was for an acquaintance I knew through a club I was in in high school. We were state officers in this club, but several years apart. He invited all of the people who were state officers in the years surround him being a state officer. I would have never considered us close. I was in college and the wedding was a 6 hour drive away, so I declined.

The only one I've felt bad about declining was my cousin's wedding. He seemed hurt by it, but I'd just started college and would have had to miss a few days of classes plus covered airfare from Nebraska to South Carolina and back on top of several nights hotel stay. I'd been financially independent from my parents for awhile at that point and was waiting tables for $2.13 an hour. Going to his wedding would've nearly wiped out my savings. Luckily for me I didn't let the guilt force me into going since my car crapped out a few weeks later.

I was invited by Facebook message and they asked if we wanted to come since my parents were. We had never met this couple. Lol

We just declined FH's cousin's wedding invitation for a few reasons. Cash bar, self-catered, facebook invitations and constant harassing posts from the bride to RSVP 3 months in advance, facebook messages to "check out our walmart registry" and the registry consisted only of gift cards. I kind of wanted to go just to be an asshole and report back here about the horrifying details. But FH finally decided he didn't want to go, and I also have a sneaking suspicion that my (surprise) bridal shower is the same day.

I declined my former best friend's wedding, and I was the one who hooked them up and drove her to their first date over 8 years ago. Honestly, we are cool, and I've tried reconnecting with her in past and she didn't want to. Once she started having kids and got engaged she started to reach out to me more on social media (not sure why, maybe post college she realized I was one of her real friends) but honestly I don't want her back in my life. I don't hate her and I'm happy for her just after all this time I didn't feel like I wanted to open that back up. FH on the other hand has declined (I was just the plus one) several weddings but always when we are clearly B list, for example everyone already has invites and magically 1 or 2 weeks before the wedding your invite shows. No thanks.

I haven't yet declined a wedding, but as I don't particularly enjoy them, in themselves, I would happily decline if:

I had to travel far (relative to my closeness to the couple, of course-- I flew across the country for both my younger brothers' weddings...), it was an inconvenient time for me, I wasn't particularly close to the couple.

I declined a cousins wedding that was through Facebook and self-catered. I haven't seen her in over 10 years.

I declined 3 weddings in the past 3 years. I have 2 little ones and traveling without them to the opposite coast for someone who is not family or closed friend is just not an option for me. #not sorry

I also received a save the date from someone who I met once. Their wedding is this coming May. They are inviting us because the venue requires 100 minimum guests, their families are out of the country. I will decline as soon as the invite arrives.

I haven't declined any that I've been invited to yet.

there was one last weekend that I was pretty sure I wasn't going to (FB invite, potluck, Nightmare Before Christmas/Pirate themed), but we ended up being able to make it...but I hadn't declined that one...worst case I was going to send DH without me, since I didn't know if I'd get off work in time.

If I ever did decline, it would be due to a prior commitment, or work schedule.