Why did you decline?

I attended a shower with my mom where she and I went in on a very nice gift. My mom received a thank you note and I didn't. Her fmil remarked "Who has all that money to throw away on postage when you're starting a life together?"

When the wedding invitation came, I declined and wrote on the card "If my shower gift wasn't good enough, I am sure whatever I give you as a wedding present won't be either."

Gawd, I am such a bitch.

There was only one wedding I have had to decline and it was over the phone.

I was supposed to be the MOH for my best friend and it was scheduled 2 years out and an amazing venue, I flew from South Florida to Atlanta on my only savings (I was 19) to help her buy her dress, this was in January.

In March she called to say she was moving it up a year. No problem.

In April she called to say it was going to be in August at the park.. Okay.. I will do my best.

2 weeks later she called to say it was about a month out, courthouse wedding, followed by pool/party bbq. Now I loved this girl to death... but there was no way I could leave on that short of notice to be gone for a week(that how long I was told I was needed), let alone had the money to do it. I told her as much.

It only started the beginning of our relationship crumble which became a massive rockslide.

I almost declined when I didn't get a +1 for my LTR at the time but then we broke up before the RSVP deadline, sooo I went anyway. I did RSVP no to a wedding where said Ex and the intern he left me for were also invited. Not on the couple to change their guest list to suit me, so I decided not to put myself in that situation haha

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I declined three invites before. One because my younger brother graduated the same weekend as the wedding and it was out of town. I declined a second invite because I was only invited to the after party and a third because I was only invited to the reception but it was only cake and punch.

We barely knew them. This kid my husband played baseball with in highschool (and hasn't seen him in 8 years) invited us.

A few years ago, we were invited to a commitment ceremony for one of my friends. She had a commitment ceremony and not an actual wedding because she didn't want to lose her widow benefits from her deceased husband. I was already a little put off by that but was still willing to go since it was an excuse to party with our friends. We ended up declining when we found out it was a pot luck and my friend wanted me and some other friends to be servers. Big NOPE!

I get a lot of invites from brides whose makeup and hair i am doing for the big day.

while its a sweet gesture, its a bit awkward.. i dont know anyone. Also, some brides think by inviting me to the wedding, they're getting around having to pay my hourly rate for me to hang around during the reception and ceremony and do touchups. no thanks. i pretty much always decline.

Both my roommate at the time and myself each got an invitation to a friend's wedding; we both did not get a plus one and we were both in long term relationships, so I technically RSVP'd, but gave my spot to roommate's GF. Yeah loopholes!

I declined an invite for a couple I knew fairly well, but we weren't super close at the same time. They were my neighbors. The wedding was black tie - they had an insert with attire requirements, so I would have needed to purchase a formal gown, and it was out of state. I was not provided a plus one, which I understand I guess, because they stated that they wanted to keep the budget down. They were registered at Tiffany's (also an insert in the invitation). So, you want a fancy black tie wedding and to register at Tiffany's, and for me to travel 5 hours away and get a hotel room, but I will know no one else there? Maybe its just me, but when someone says they are trying to throw a lower cost wedding, I find it odd they registered at Tiffanys and wanted it that fancy.

I declined because it was too much money for me to spend.

I have only ever declined one wedding and am actually still heart broken over it. I was supposed to be the MOH but the bride did not care for my fiancé and told me point blank 7 months before the wedding that he would not be welcome. As such I told her as respectfully as I could that I could not be part of her wedding and declined the invitation, which was addressed just to me and my five year old daughter (even though we are engaged and living together). Unfortunately our friendship didn't survive.

I've declined two. The first was a destination wedding less than a month after my MOH's destination wedding. We wanted to go but we couldn't justify the vacation time or the money.

The second was my husbands second cousin. His parents got an invitation addressed to mom&dad&family. They assumed that included my SIL that still lived at home, but not my husband and myself (fiancée at the time) who had not lived at home in almost 5 years. Her mom called MIL to ask if we were coming because we never RSVP'd. Bitch, we were never invited!

FH and I declined one. The bride was a nightmare 'zilla (one example being planning her own 80 person shower at the most expensive country club in town and invoicing the bridesmaids), and the groom went on a Facebook rant about religion and the government "redefining the term marriage" and how anyone who has a secular ceremony shouldn't be allowed to call their relationship a marriage. FH and I are having a secular ceremony, and we didn't feel comfortable attending a wedding of two people who wouldn't respect ours.

...Especially after the groom texted me that he was loving living long distance from her so he didn't have to listen to her "run her mouth". FH and I would never say that about the other, and we really didn't feel like they had any reason to judge our relationship.

Usually I don't decline invites because I still get way too excited about being invited (I think that'll slow down after this summer when I have 5 to attend..) but there was one that we were clearly B-listed (which didn't make me mad-again, excited to go) and it was the same day as the big celebration for my scholarship program in college. I was going to get to MC the celebration and see lots of my friends from college...so the wedding was dropped They understood though, and I didn't feel too bad since I knew I hadn't made the first cut!

I declined the first one because it was out of the country and I didn't have the funds to travel. I had also never met my friends partner so even if I had the time and cash I likely would have used them for another expense. The second wedding was not only out of the country but overseas so I had to decline. I really did try to make that one work but it was only a month and a half before ANOTHER out of country wedding that I was MOH for.

Yep. It was a last minute invite. I still took it as a nice gesture and bought them a wedding gift. But FH (boyfriend at the time) wasn't invited, it was an hour away, and most guests were spending the night. I didn't want to drive back so late, nor did I want to spend money staying at a resort hotel + gift + possibly outfit.

I personally as a adult have never declined a wedding invitation because I love weddings

There was a situation when I was a teenager that I thought we weren't invited to a family wedding and assumed it was because we lived far away.

I was upset about it and spoke to my grandmother and she spilled the beans on the situation.....

the bride wanted me to be a bridesmaid, but not my sister. My mom was unhappy about it so decided we weren't to attend at all.

btw- at the time I was 15 and my sister was 12. Bride felt I was old enough to be a bridesmaid, but not my sister. That's why she asked for me and not my sister it wasn't anything personal against my sister, she was just too young.

Just once because it was out of state and I had just started my job. Couldn't make the trip and had no money for the travel expenses

I declined my cousins wedding cuz we dont talk and i honestly dont like her. i know was only invited cuz im family. but im glad i didnt go cuz i heard the rest of my family, even my grandmother, were treated like crap there.

Declined once when I was laid off in 2009. I couldn't stomach or justify flying to Aruba during peak season and staying at a 4 star hotel.

We declined because the bride didn't want iPhones at her wedding. Apparently she hates the company. However all other phones are welcome. WTF. Who really cares THAT much about a damn cell phone that it would "ruin her special day if she saw one." Beyond stupid.