Why Did You Get Married?

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So would you say you got married because of fate, trust, excitement or something else?

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I respect that.

I struggled with this for a second. I feel it's true that I don't need a paper to prove that I love someone and that I'm 100% commited to them. I don't need a paper or a big 100,000 pricetag to prove that we are meant to be together. I don't feel that those are the reasons you should get married either. I want to marry him because I want to promise him before God and all our friends that I am here for the long haul. This isn't a game to me. I take my Lord seriously and to promise in front of him, that is a big deal for me.

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I appreciate the respect. We're Pagan. If it weren't for the legal benefits of marriage which I think is a very outdated concept(...the legal aspects...not marriage in general. I think it should be easier for long term couples to have those benefits without a marriage certificate), we'd complete a handfasting without the legal nature of a marriage ceremony. We want the ceremony. We want the intent. We don't so much require legal marriage for our relationship, but it just makes more logical sense to do it that way.

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My husband and I felt the same way. It was more about the profession of our love before our family and friends and the commitment we made to one another before God that certified our marriage. The paperwork and legal benefits were just a plus.

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I'm grateful for discussions like this that exposed me to others culture and way of living. I recently learned what it means to be Pagan so I completely understand.

I like hearing different perspectives on why people get married. Everyone has a different reason and they're all valid.

You've challenged me to try and put into words why I got married. Thank you for that! I've had a lot of thoughts about marriage from when I was a little girl all the way to the time I actually got married. I've always viewed it as something serious, and in my heart, the strongest promise I could make to love someone and be their partner, for the good and bad, for the rest of our lives. My husband and I are also Christians, so for us, you add in the "before God" element, and it becomes more solid and a big thing to do.

We met in college and became best friends and started dating around a year after that. So, by the time that he proposed on our 3 year anniversary, I knew that I wanted to make that promise to him. I was contemplating proposing to him by that point too! I didn't think I could ever love him more than I did then, but in the time we've been married, I love him even more.

View Quoted Comment Our handfasting is coming first. In September, and our legal binding isn't until 2021. The handfasting and what it means spiritually, is what makes it a marriage for me

My husband new upfront that to me personally marriage is about love. Loving that one person in your life unconditionally and knowing you want to spend the rest of your life about them. It's not about the paper, the name change, nor religion.

I think for him knowing how I felt upfront really helped him.

So we married because we love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together. Unity

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Thank you for sharing. I love the reason you got married! I too like hearing different perspectives on this topic.

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I love this!