Why do people "Invite" themselves to Weddings???????

Because they suck big hairy balls.

Same issue. My father's sister, who I've only met like 3 times in my life and am not overly fond of said, "she can't wait for my wedding." My thought is "ummm, you're not invited." I just ignored her.

Then my dad is talking to some random friend of his (that I hadn't seen since I was five) and he asked to be invited to the wedding. His friend also noted that the wedding would fall on his wife's birthday so they can "double celebrate." My dad, thinking this was a great idea, told them they were invited. When I confronted him about it and told him this was a no-go, he didn't see the problem with him inviting guests and was upset that if I now don't send them an invite, it'd make him look like he was going back on his word. We are having a small wedding with a limited guest list, they are the absolute last people I want there. #foolishness

The only super awkward moment I've had so far was with my MOH's mom. I love this family. They invite me to holidays and family functions, and "mom" even came dress shopping with me. We were talking about no kids, and she says "Oh, we're bringing our son." #1- He's not a kid, he's 24. #2.- We won't likely have room in our budget for another adult. I don't even think he would WANT to go. I'm still not sure what to think, But at least I have a year to figure it out.

I was expecting this to happen a lot but thankfully it hasn't. LDS weddings are the majority of weddings here in Utah, and it is very common for them to be open-house type receptions open to everyone they know. I guess FH and I have done a good enough job of making everyone we know aware that we are not LDS so they're not expecting us to have that type of reception! We've had a few people assume they were invited but once we told them we're not having an open house reception, they dropped it.

We are only inviting our parents, grandparents, FH's brothers, FH's daughter, and my best friend to our wedding, and my aunt on my mom's side, who is a part of the reason we changed our plans from having a large wedding, to a small one in Hawaii, keeps pressing for an invite even though I explained the situation to her. She is also under the impression that my grandparents are paying for my parents to go, which is not the case, and keeps hinting to my grandma to pay for her and my cousin to go to our wedding. I'm amazed and yet, I'm not. We are also planning on hosting a celebration after the wedding in Colorado for anyone who didn't get to attend our ceremony in Hawaii, which I explained she is invited to that, but obviously her priority is to get a free Hawaiian vacation.

We are inviting parents, siblings, my son and his girlfriend, and one friend for each of us (and their SO's) and one cousin of mine (maybe), so clearly immediate family and nothing over 22 people. I've had my stepmom try to tell me my aunt is coming (no she absolutely is not), a friend who I haven't seen in five years who lives across the country invite herself, and most of FH's friends assume it's a big wedding and they will all be invited so we just have to keep saying no. I have no problem doing that, but I hate that they make us do that!

I literally had one girl comment on a Facebook photo of my fiancé and I and said, "you guys are so cute, can I come to your wedding haha" like uhhhhhhh

@veeismee OMG I'm glad I'm not the only one dealing with a crazy aunt. Our stories are so similar. we are having a beach ceremony with parents, grandparents, siblings and MOH and Best man. THATS IT. Then coming back to Indy with the large reception that everyone will be invited too. I just commented on this thread with more detail. UGH so annoying

Girl I feel you @Deanna! My aunt hasn't spoken to my mom since right before Christmas and refuses to mend the relationship (Which is the foundation to all of the drama)

, so she is lucky I am even willing to invite her to the reception back home!

I had a guy tell me he better be invited right after he found out I was engaged... So I sent him an invite and his plus one, and then go figure, he thinks I am moving too quickly since we are only having a 4 month engagement (both in our thirties and just "know" what we want and no reason to wait) so he is now saying he won't come because he basically doesn't approve... My whole family consisting of 6 siblings and their spouses all LOVE my FH and approve... and then this guy who has meant him once, won't come because we are getting married too fast. Why demand an invite only to refuse to come?!? lol... anyway... Sorry for the vent in the middle of your post!

My FH works with a lot of people in our friends group (they just all got a job at the same place). So pretty much all of those people got an invite, HOWEVER whenever we hangout with the larger group and the wedding comes up (or any wedding, since 2 other girls in the group are engaged) some people ask when our date is/why aren't they invited. Super awkward for me. I mostly just apologize and say we had a strict budget (true) and we couldn't invite everyone. I try to avoid wedding talk at all cost, but it happens.

I can't even tell you how badly this gets to me - I think it is so incredibly rude. To invite yourself over for dinner is one thing, especially someone close to FH and I, but to invite yourself to our wedding when you hardly even know us? No. No. Nooooooooo.

I have had a couple of situations.

1st a guy I work with has asked me a couple times when I was mailing invites and I ignored it. Then the other day at our ice cream social he says your wedding is getting close and I still haven't received my invitation I guess I'm not invited. I said well my wedding is only family and very close friends sorry.

2nd- My brother who lives in Florida of course him and his wife are invited but she RSVP'd for 3 since she has her daughter all summer. I was totally okay with that. Then a week after the deadline for RSVP she texts me and asked if her adult son and girlfriend could come. I was really irritated but I said sure. 2 days ago she text me to let me know the adult kids aren't coming. (I have already paid for them to come.) I am beyond pissed.

I had a coworker want to invite the new girl as her plus 1 because she "felt bad"... She didn't tell me she told someone else that they were going together to buy their dresses. I eventually had to tell her that unfortunately I could not add anyone else. I've also had other people trying to ask for details and fit their way in there.

BTW, mind you our office has over 60 employees so obviously I didn't invite the full 60 (only 8).

Going in, I knew our families would invite ghost family members and/or other friends so when we made out our guest list, we also budgeted for about 20-25 additional guests. It's not a desirable thing to have happen but realistically, you need to expect it a little. The only "no" I've had to do is tell certain folks that they were not invited to the ceremony but could attend the reception.

I have been lucky with this. I am only inviting one of my dad's 7 siblings and his family, which I thought I would never even have to deal with dad's sisters cause I haven't seen them in a decade. Then last month they all showed up at my uncle's (who I did invite) and i got invites over for mini reunion luckily they all just congratulated me and didn't say anything about not being invited. However my FSIL (FHs brothers wife) who was invited but can't afford to fly down (FH sister is paying for brother to fly down and his hotel room) keeps messaging me about how much she wishes she could come and how sad she is and how helpful she would be. I'm just like yeah sorry you can't come.

We are just finalizing our guest list this month...I am aware that there may be some changes since we still have about a month before we send the invites out. I just want them to stop assuming.

A month after I got engaged this girl from my old church messaged me on Facebook asking if I have already sent invites. I have been avoiding contact from those people for like 7 years, why would I invite any of them? I just ignored her. We had a GM's mom put us in an awkward situation about being invited so we invited her. I mean she's nice and also let FH and his friends crash in her basement a lot as teens so I don't mind. My mother tried to invite her old friend from California who she has not seen since 1992 or spoken to much for the past couple years. I'm afraid she might sneak an invite though, she's petty like that.

I've learned from all of your experiences to never post anything on social media or talk about the wedding planning at work. So far no self invitations! Yay!!!

Lady at work (who I like a lot) said, "I can't wait for your bridal shower." *crickets* I responded with, well I'm only inviting those invited to the wedding, and unfortunately I couldn't accommodate everyone I wanted to at the wedding soo...