Why do people take so long to Rsvp?

It's just typical for people not to RSVP, there are a ton of forum posts about it from a ton of brides. We sent our invites out 3 months early, guests had the invites for 6 weeks before they were due, and we included stamped & addressed RSVP cards in each envelope and a way to RSVP online. We also sent save the dates out 10 months in advance with information on our main hotel block & our website fully set up. We literally could not have made it easier if we tried, and we still had to contact 61 people after our RSVP date came. It's just how it is unfortunately! I for sure learned my lesson & send RSVPs back almost instantly when we get them for events. I wouldn't reach out until a day after your RSVP date.

I would definitely call them and follow up. That time frame seems a bit short to expect anyone to get back to you so soon. But in general, people are pretty bad at responding anyway.

People are the worst! We just have to live with it LOL!

If there's anything wedding planning will teach you it's that people are awful about RSVPing. They either forget, think they don't need to RSVP if they're not coming, or on the other end, assume you know they'll be there so they don't RSVP.

I hate this!! Yeah, they make an assumption that you know they are coming. But, when you are a bride and/or groom, and planning a whole wedding, there are lots of other things on your mind, so it's really best if they would just send back the dang card!!

Even though I'm still months away from sending my invitations, whenever I see or talk to someone in my family, I've started reminding them, "this is going to be old school, with old school RSVP cards. Be sure to send yours back, even though you've told me you're coming." I'm really hoping this "preemptive strike" will mean I have less people to hound come RSVP time. Fingers crossed!

I get you!! But I figured an online option is even easier to ignore!! Plus, many of my guests are older, and although they have computers and smart phones, they are even less likely to RSVP online, so I knew the cards were essential for my guest list.

I got a bunch of RSVPs at the very tail end of our deadline, but I'm still going to have people left to call. Our RSVP date was yesterday. I'm waiting until Friday to start contacting the ones left....hoping there's a few stragglers in the mail.

Prepare to call them all but also be prepared to send messages "We will need to have your RSVP by x date otherwise we will need to mark you as not attending" because people may ignore you.

I wish I had a good answer. My deadline for them was yesterday and i've gotten I think 6

My due date was yesterday and I'm still missing 39 of 94. I gave myself a buffer for this reason exactly but this weekend Ill be sending a list of people to contact to my mom (shes retired, bored, and constantly complaining I don't ask for her help enough) The sad reality is, sometimes people don't understand the stress it causes, and even I've bee guilty of it in the past.