Why doesn't FH want a bachelor party?

Maybe he doesn't like being the center of attention? Does he like birthday parties, etc? Is he introverted?

I admit that I care partly because I want him to have a special day/night with his guys, but I also don't want to feel guilty about spending money on a b-party for myself (like a trip) if he doesn't get an equivalent.

And just FYI, there is no GM drama. And he doesn't secretly want strippers or something. Cuz he knows I wouldn't care.

No, he's a huge extrovert! We just had a grad party for him and he had a great time. Besides, it would be him and 4 other guys and they're all chill.

All of my husband's groomsmen lived too far away for him to have a bachelor party, plus he just doesn't enjoy the usual bachelor party activities. He's much happier drinking while playing computer games with his friends. The day after our wedding, him and his groomsmen went to see Iron Man 3, so he considered that his bachelor party. As long as he was happy, I was happy.

Hmm. My DH didn't want to party for his (he likes drinking/socializing otherwise, so I was a little surprised). He wanted to go camping, which he had done like 3 times his whole life (unlike me). I'm still not sure what motivated him, lol.

Aside from what I posted and what you said, I can't think of any other reasons. He wouldn't mind if you took a trip if he didn't, would he?

He might mind, from a financial standpoint. If he doesn't see the parties as priorities, will he mind me spending $ that could be going elsewhere? I think the parties are important. It's your last hurrah with your friends before he officially become an "us." And they're fun!!!

Maybe he just doesn't want a last hurrah, because he sees you as already an "us"?

I've never really been that into b-parties, because imo if you're getting married there is no last hurrah you've been an us for a while, and I can go out with my friends still so it's not really a last hurrah.

Could also be the money. Are/will your finances be still separate? Or are they joint? Have you guys discussed what each of you would be comfortable with paying for a b-party right now? It's like any budgetting, wedding, school, life it's all the same. You both need to be on the same page or be able to compromise if you're not so maybe ask if he's okay from the financial standpoint. You don't want to go on the trip and than find out later he wasn't okay with you spending the money. Communication is always good.

My FH & i aren't doing bachelor/ bachelorette parties...my FH doesn't think that they are a good idea....

We're at the stage where we're deciding what goes in the budget. I want b-parties to be included, though it doesn't have to be big. I'm fully prepared to have a night out with my girls two days before the wedding. Maybe a facial or massage and then some cocktails. It's not what kind of party or the price tag that is the problem. He just doesn't want one. Period. Even calling getting drinks the night before a bachelor party is a no-go. I'm just trying to figure out whether it's the tradition of going nuts or what...

Mine doesn't want one either really. He's getting one, but he's really indifferent about it and wouldn't care in the least if it wasn't happening! FH is pretty well off (I don't mean that to sound bad/conceited/showy, he just is). And he is always very uncomfortable with people giving him gifts/spending money on him or being the center of attention.

I'm not huge into one either- mines actually going to be during the day and we are just going on winery tours all day.

We are the opposite mine does I don't....

My FI was excited when I told him I was going to make sure he one, and a good one. He has poker tables, cuban cigars, lots of expensive scotch, and a stripper, lol. I set it all up, its at his eldest brother's house (who is his best man) and they are grilling steaks, ribs and brisket.

Neither of us are that big on it. We'll probably do *something* but it's not high on my list. I think my FSIL is more jazzed about a b-party than I am. She was kinda bummed when I said I didn't want to go clubbing.

Could it be that he knows his GM will hire strippers & usually at b-parties the point is to embarrass the groom, not turn him on? Maybe he saw a friend in an uncomfortable situation?