I hate hate hate gifts. I hate stuff. I am a minimalist. I don’t need or event want anything else in my 700sq foot apartment. Any Christmas or birthday present I ever buy for someone else is an experience and not a thing. I am a climber and all of my extra money goes to what makes me and my FH happy; camping, hiking and climbing.
My wedding is a couple months away and I’m literally dreading the idea of receiving gifts. Call me crazy. Any time I receive a gift I feel nothing but guilt because I genuinely don’t want to have to deal with it. Idk what it is. I live in Colorado but am getting married in Rhode Island (that’s where I’m from). I can’t bring gifts back with me. I realize I can register for gifts and have them sent to me out in Colorado, but there are like ten things I can think of that I want or need, and they’re all climbing related lol.
Question for everyone who says it is rude to “ask” for cash rather than gifts. Why is it totally acceptable to have a gift registry, but considered “rude” to have a cash registry? Both are entirely optional, right? Having a gift registry isn’t asking or expecting your guests to give you a gift. A cash registry is the same exact thing, no? It is just there as an option on your wedding website, just as the gift registry is. In fact, with a gift registry, you’re literally hand picking things for people to buy you. So I am genuinely curious, what is the difference? Please, something besides “it’s non-traditional” or it’s “just rude,” because I am seriously struggling to understand what exactly makes it rude. I feel like it’s way more rude to take a gift and return it and then lie about it on a thank you card.
Everyone invited to the wedding knows us well and knows that we live for adventure. Would it be “rude” to set up a cash registry to help us toward climbing Denali in Alaska?