Background: My December 2020 wedding was postponed one year due to COVID and later downsized from 150 to 45 due to COVID restrictions in light of recent outbreak. My bachelorette was planned before the wedding was downsized and we were due to go away for the weekend in early November as a group of 12. We don’t even know if it can go ahead yet but we haven’t yet cancelled because most of the group still wanted to go even though only half the group were being invited to the downsized wedding (again this trip was planned before we had no choice but to downsize or postpone again).
Issue: Lockdown has made me realize that some of the people on the original guest list are not my friends but acquaintances with whom there is no contact if I don’t oversee it - essentially one way friendships. I don’t really want to spend my bachelorette weekend with those people who I’ve come to realize are only there for the fun and will go back to their old ways afterwards.
Given that only half the original bachelorette girls are invited to the downsized wedding, I’m hoping to maybe re-organize the bachelorette so that we go a couple of weeks later than when originally planned (to avoid the current restrictions in place) and only go with the half group that are actually invited to the wedding.
If I do this, I’d be as politely as possible telling the others that we are canceling our original plans due to the restrictions and that there might be smaller things organized by my bridal party (a white lie to cover my tracks if the downsized plan goes ahead later).
I know it sounds awful but I just don’t want to miss out on a bachelorette altogether or be annoyed that it was spent with people that I’ve come to learn don’t give AF about me. Would I be an A-h-le if I did this?
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