My wife and I are best friends with a couple who are getting married next year. We’ve known the groom for many years and I’ve known the bride since childhood.
The wedding plans started ramping up this month, so we expected to hear soon if we’d be in the wedding party. I tried not to get too excited, as I anticipated the possibility of not being included, or have other friends chosen over us, which is totally fine - I’d be happy just being a guest.
They recently informed us that the 3 groomsmen are all family, but my wife was asked to be 1 of 3 bridesmaids. I admitted I was disappointed that I’m not a part of wedding party but my wife is. They explained that they understood it was awkward but my wife being involved was only to “even the numbers out”.
I have to take this answer for what it is, but I’m having a hard time accepting that my wife will be standing up in the wedding of our 2 best friends, taking part in the usual events (rehearsal dinner, sitting at the head table, photos, etc.), while I’m not a part of any of it, and will be spending the first half of the wedding separated from my wife.
The bride and groom are our 2 best friends and we’ve been through a lot together. As I said I was ok not being involved in the wedding party - it’s their wedding. But being sidelined while my wife takes part was unexpected and will only bother me more and more until the wedding is over.
Am I wrong to feel this way and is there anything I can do about it other than “suck it up”?