Will / Did You Have Ushers?

I'm not sure if I want my mom to walk me down the aisle or not since I'm not a fan of the 'giving away' aspect of weddings lol.

If she doesn't then we might have ushers for our moms, so it would only be 2. I've told FH that either he can pick both, or we each pick for our moms.

We didn't have Ushers as I was pretty confident our guests were capable of seatin themselves, Lol. In your situation, dad could still escort mom, and then circle back to you while the rest of your wedding party is processing down the aisle? Or, are all of your brothers groomsmen, and if not, can one of them do it?

We don't plan on having ushers. Can one of your brothers escort her? I will probably have my brother escort my mom and then join the bridal party last. Either that or one of my uncles escort her.

Our junior groomsman escorted H's mom (with dad walking behind) and then circled back and escorted my mom. It worked out really well.

Anytime I’ve been to a wedding with ushers it’s seemed very unnecessary and awkward. Most adults are fine seating themselves.

Thanks for the ideas, everyone! I think we're going to skip ushers and have my dad walk my mom down and circle back for me

We are having groomsmen do double duty as ushers, as is common in our families/circles. For a couple minutes we considered asking 2 younger cousins (early 20s) but decided not to have our guests work at all because we have had to work as guests in the past and it wasn’t an enjoyable/honored experience. Our ushers won’t know the majority of guests either but they ask if the guest is on the bride or groom’s side...or don’t ask anything if you are having mixed seating. If we were to have ushers separate from groomsmen, they would be allowed to wear whatever they wish, undecided on boutonnières. They are normally the same number as groomsmen to stay in ratio with the number of guests (1 per 25/50 guests) and they will be seating guests for the duration of the 30 minutes before the ceremony.


Mom of the bride will be escorted by one of groomsmen/ushers without pomp and circumstance.

We had ushers because we needed people to hand out ceremony programs and escort our grandmothers down the aisle (one of them used a cane and needed the extra support while walking). We told them to wear anything they wanted and they didn't match the wedding party

Hi Marianne!

I hope this helps since my wedding processional was a bit unique. I think that you should have as many ushers as you want (same thing with as many wedding party members as you want).

My Dad sadly passed away in 2011, so I asked my FIL and my Godfather to walk me down the aisle. My husband walked my mother and my MIL down the aisle. We told everyone (via our programs and officiant) that this was another way of uniting the two families who have lovingly been a supportive part of our lives. We even had some of my husband's grandparents as part of the processional and recessional to honor them as well.

We had 4 ushers for our wedding. It was partially because we couldn't have everyone that we wanted as part of the wedding party, but still wanted them to be a special part of the day. The other reason we did it was because we had a large number of guests in attendance, and navigating our venue from the parking lot could be a bit confusing to people (it was all of our guests' first time there, there's two buildings on the property including a winery, which wasn't part of our wedding - besides their wines. So we didn't want everyone to accidentally head to the winery, or go down the wrong steps - there were a couple entrances - so we had some signs up as well). My husband wanted the groomsmen and BM to hang out with him beforehand too (he didn't want to be alone right before setting up to go down the aisle, and he was a bit nervous/doesn't like to be the center of attention), which is also understandable.

Our ushers all wore matching outfits (they didn't match the wedding party, and we were fine with that. We wanted them to stand out so that way guests would know who are ushers were) - and while I did have extra boutonnieres for them, they actually came prepared with small flowers that matched their bowties (they were clip-ons). They looked so awesome (they picked out their outfits by the way and I loved them)! I think I still have a picture of them on my profile if you want to check out what they wore (I know I posted in an usher-related post a couple days after my wedding back in 2018).

My guests were very thrilled to have them help with escorts to seats and to hand out programs as well. It was nice since they were able to escort people around the custom aisle runner that we had. We had a few rows of seats saved for family (especially since my husband has a larger family, so that was nice). They're still to this day talking about how nice everyone was (even though this was almost 3 years ago) and how it was great to have the help of the ushers (especially for some of our elderly family members who needed some assistance).

We're not having ushers. I'm having grandparents escort themselves. My FH will escort his mom. My dad will escort my stepmom then come back to me. My son will escort my mom and then come back to me.

We did not have ushers. Honestly, you really don't need them. A groomsmen could easily pull double duty by escorting anyone who needs it.